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A friend in need!!

Hi Everyone!!
My closest friend has been extrememly depressed and wrapped around bad energy. She has lost close family members, boyfriend of 6 years, her brothers, and her job all in the past year. I have tried speaking with her on her depression, but she believes she can deal with her problems herself. She has become very angry with everyone and when I am around her, her negativity hits me, energetically, and I am imediatley impacked. I would like to heal her of this stress, but I have never done it before. I hear her insides calling out but not sure where to begin. [&o]
Does anyone know of any prays, spells, or steps for me to take on her to help her heal and rid her self of this evil? [sm=grouphug.gif]
With My Best
Treaty

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Hiya
I understand your need to want to help your friend...but she needs to want to heal it sounds as if she is greiving in the only way she knows how...with anger. You need to protect yourself when you are around her, so that the negativity flows over you and not directly at you...give her time, as much as she needs, be there as the friend that listens and hopefully one day soon she may well see the 'light' that is shining on her
luv & peace
stormdeva x

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Hi Stormdeva!
Her grandmother died almost a year ago and her two brothers have been put away for a long time, and her parents have moved 800 miles away from her. She feels alone and hurt that her loved ones have left her. She has a tendency of yelling at me if I'm not around her from the time that I get off of work until the time that I fall asleep. She believes that Im not a friend since I can't sense when I should just "be there" instead of her having to call me. I am trying to be around her as much as possible, but if she doesn't let me do things for myself to release and focus then I can't help her!
I'll take ANYTHING you have to give me!
-Treaty

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Hi Treaty
I agree with Storm in that it is your friend who needs to start this healing process, also you being on her beck and call is adding to this. I can understand how difficult it is for you to see her like this but as you say yourself you need a release yourself which is more important when you are helping someone like this.
Is there anyone else that can ease your burden for a bit? It does sound as though she needs professional help and anti depressants will help ease her moods and help her rationalise. Is there any way that you can get her to see a doctor, you may have to word it in such a way that she thinks that she has thought of it.
I wish you luck with this and I will send reiki to you and your friedn to help with the situation.
with love
maria

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Hi
I am just agreeing with Storm and Mariaob her that she needs to be ready and wants to help herself, no matter how good a friend you are you cannot make it right for her she has to do it herself....her time will come when she is ready for this so just carry on being her friend and being there but do try not to become the emotional crutch as if she realises she cant lean heavily on another she may well look inside for the answers....hope that makes sense.
much love being sent to the situation
T
x

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Hey T and Maria!
Thanks so much for the advice! I've haven't seen her in two days, because I felt weak after seeing her her. I'm know rejuberated and am ready take on the next round, lol!! Thanks all. I hope she does eventually go seek help, but she doesn't se it as an option yet.
-Treaty

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Hi there
Ok its hard to let go and pull back from some one u care about and know is going through a rough time. I agree wit the others that u need to disconect fro now, as she may be oblivious that she is draining you. She be feeding of your posotive energy and u will be absorbing her negative energy, which will get you drained and ill.
For now take a deep breath and ask for the ties to be cut, until the time is safe for your to approach again. I am not saying be cold towards her simply say to yourself that you need some space.
Ask Sandalphon and Metatron to help u they transmute and prepare . Takeing allnegativity away and transmuting it into love and Light
If this sounds far fetched then Give it a go. Also a bath in Epson Salts works. A good handful to the water and a saok works too:)
Love
Dragon

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Hi Again
just reading what Dragon has put and had a message saying taht you can imagine her bathed in pink light, or a bubble, this is a loving energy and even tho you need to pull back she will still feel your loving energy through this pink bubble.
Also you can meditate seeing her in healing colours like blue and green and then progress up to more yellows and oranges which will also allow happiness back into her life.
I will also send her some colours to help with her healing
with love
maria

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Bless yep thats right
Also turquoise would be useful, but not important.
Thanks Mariaob:D

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Hi All,
I haven't seen her in three days, but I have been calling and now she is not returning my calls. I hope I have not hurt her in this vulnerable time, but I need to center and ground myself before I continue.
-Treaty

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yep it is best to ground and prepare yourself. Crystalizing your aura works alos.
See your aura and make is crystal like on the outside, but trnasparent from the inside. So u can look out but they can not see in
This is a hard defence from any negative energys. Make sure thoiugh there are no imperfections or cracks in yur shield specilay when u r finished. Then ask Metatron to take any negative energys up to source /Light to be transmuted into love and light.
Love
Dragon:)

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Hi Treaty
Lots of good advice given above. I would like to add one suggestion, from a practical level, and that is that you could establish - and maintain - some boundaries with your friend. By that I mean boundaries on the time you have available, and what you will and will not tolerate in the way she treats you.
A wise friend of mine once said: Never give a No without a Yes. So in your case that could be No, I can't come immediately after work, but Yes, I will be there at .... (name your time). No, I don't like to be shouted at, Yes I will talk to you when you have calmed down.
Having personal experience of feelings of anger and panic after suffering loss, and also been on the receiving end of someone yelling at me over something that was actually nothing to do with me at all - his stuff - I can see both sides.
However, with boundaries coming from you, your friend just might decide to exercise a degree of self control, which could be the first step towards getting her life back on track.
There was a thread on Boundaries in the Life Coaching forum a few weeks ago, which might interest you. Here's the link:
I hope this has been of some help?
Holistic





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