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Blame syndrome psychoanalysis

Blame syndrome psychoanalysis
by Mr Ouko
Lecturer at the University of Nairobi

Human beings are wont to blame. Social psychologists usually categorise the technique of blame into three:
1 Blaming the self
2. Blaming those around the self
3. Avoiding blame altogether
Subsequently, these social psychologists use the different categories of blame to evaluate character strength and personality traits.
Those who tend to blame themselves are said to be very strong-willed personalities and focused achievers in whose vocabulary, F (failure) comes after Z (zeal). Such personalities are so buoyed with self-confidence that they always take matters head-on and are always willing to accept responsibility - even using it to fruition.
Then there are those who always blame others for whatever it may be worth. These are often deflated personalities who are obviously mismatched to the statures they occupy and to the tasks allocated to them. In an effort to prove their worth, they will flay anybody and all the shadows as the source of their failures.
Then there is the last category who will hardly ever be heard blaming anything or anyone for whatever may face or befall them. Such are the people whose personalities remain consistent with their statutes and abilities. They always brim with a potential easily recognisable by all and sundry.
It must always be remembered that as natural as the tendency to blame may be, shifting, apportioning or accepting blame will always be a reliable indicator of personality orientation and strength of character. In such situations, the blame generator only helps to reveal an inward frustration ranging from the inability to take charge of the emergent situation. It is much like a man who fails to satisfy his wifes conjugal needs and then blames his in-laws for his inadequacies.
Blame is said to be most effective when the user can employ several uses to wriggle out of a predicament.

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I never understood why people blamed others. When you blame yourself, you have control -- the way to change others is to change yourself.
I always 'blame' myself, i.e. What do I believe that has me attracting this type of person or this circumstance? Amazing how things shift when you eliminate the beliefs behind a pattern.

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Very interesting theory and so true that it is human nature to want to place the blame somewhere. Personally though I prefer to not use the word 'blame' as I feel that it is always negative no matter who it falls on. And that sometimes we need to accept that there is no blame but that is just the way things have turned out to be. I think along the same line as NoPatterns where I will accept responsibility for my parts however maybe it wasn't wrong what I did for me and perhaps what the other party did wasn't wrong for them, we just clashed in our ways. We cannot please everyone and everything on this earth but I find that as I remain as true to myself as possible even though I may clash or be in disagreement with others there is no need for blame but rather a respectful agreeance in the differing of opinions. I find that so much more harmonious than having to make someone else feel bad, they should only feel bad if it was wrong for themselves. I find that the need to blame anyone shows a weakness and defence in the self. Even blaming yourself isn't necessarily a healthy action because I don't believe when someone takes the blame they are necessarily are willing to face the responsibility of it but rather hide behind it. I think we should all be able to learn from our mistakes and the mistakes of others too and there are consequences but there is no need to rub the salt in the wound. Whether to blame ourselves, others or avoiding it altogether there is no glory in blame to be had.
But it is very true no matter who is to blame!

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Hi
Have come here from link in my blame thread in life coaching..
Has anyone thought that blame is also a part of mind games? yet why would or does someone play mind games...
Ok.. so we start that someone has done something wrong, yet they will work on say their partner for arugments sake, twist everything that has happened or been said, that the partner then truely believes that they are to blame..
Main reason maybe because it is easy, they dont want to admit to mistakes, be responsible for self and their actions, or.. it also then gives them the 'reason/excuse' of why they did what they did, and if this over a period of years, the person doing the blame gets away with this, in time does this then become a form of manipulation or power and control, which then takes away anothers personal power?
Sorry if seems a bit.. bitty.. its early.. lol.. but trying to think logically of other avenues, which do make a lot of sense..
Love Flowerx





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