unfair treatment
My colleagues never wanted to include me in any of the activities in college right from day 1.[:@]They are mean and selfish[:'(].Now that we need to work together on projects ,they are cooking up stories saying that I don't interact with anybody:(.Now this is incorrect and they have a bad habit of telling liesonly to single me out[>:].Asa batch they stink[:'(].They aren't even ashamed of telling me that they don't mind working with free-riders but not someone who is technically sound[:@].They want to indulge in cheap politics andthey find new ways and means by which theycan harrass me[:o].Earlier,when i joined the college,they were putting a lot of pressure on meto move around with boys[&o].Being friends is ok, but i don't believe in any sort of relationship with anyone (which is not ethical and non-professional):).The boys don't want to work withme because they can't fluant me as a prized catch,they can't go to the beaches with me.They can't physically access me[:@].Other girls are moving around with boys and they go out (god knows where!! ).I don't believe in what the community believes [&:].My values are different .As long as I know that i am correct and that God will accept me unconditionally and non-judgementally,I give a damn as to what the entire universe thinks about me:).Ya,I feel good when you guys message me back.I don't feel lonely.I feel as if God's angels have chosen to help me by standing by me:D.
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have you spoken anyone at college about the problems you are having - is there a college "care bear" , these are people attached to the care team for anyone who has problems.... if not.. what about your tutor??.. can they help..
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Hi,
I agree with CrystalSeer, is there somebody at college who could support you.
You are right to stick by your principals, unfortunately I think that when you are different ( in beliefs ) you are likely to have a hard time at college, I was like you but luckily I had 1 friend and we are still friends today.
I know its hard but try to distance yourself emotionally from these students, they act the way they do not through dislike of you but because they are ignorant. As they grow they will either learn about like or they won't, but this is not for you to worry about?.
Maybe you scare them because they don't understand you, if they tease you about wanting to hang out with boys could you say something like " I don't go out with boys yet because it would contradict my beliefs, would you like me to explain my beliefs to you? ", you may find that they are more receptive than you think.
Also maybe you need to think about how you come across to people ( thinking of my own situation here ), sometimes when people are very sure of themselves and their understandings they put up barriers to people who maybe don't share their "high standards", something I have learn't is that sometimes your very best friends don't live life as you do, but it's still good because your learn from them and they learn from you. Try talking to some of the students, find out about what they like doing and see if you have any common interests even though you are on different life paths.
Ultimately though if you feel you are being bullied speak to somebody and get their help, good luck, let us know how you are getting on.
Love SaffronXX
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I have been successful in forming groups .I asked the faculty to intervene.I can't let people bully me .I don't believe in serving as a one night stand and academics is not about bargaining wherein you trade your soul to get things done.
Thanks for messaging me:):):)
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hi there
I wonder if you might also like to chat to someone outside of college?
I agree that the student team/counsellor/tutor would be excellent and here is a link if you could do with someone outside as well/instead
enjoy your studies
tigress
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have you spoken anyone at college about the problems you are having - is there a college "care bear" , these are people attached to the care team for anyone who has problems.... if not.. what about your tutor??.. can they help..
Answers:
Hi,
I agree with CrystalSeer, is there somebody at college who could support you.
You are right to stick by your principals, unfortunately I think that when you are different ( in beliefs ) you are likely to have a hard time at college, I was like you but luckily I had 1 friend and we are still friends today.
I know its hard but try to distance yourself emotionally from these students, they act the way they do not through dislike of you but because they are ignorant. As they grow they will either learn about like or they won't, but this is not for you to worry about?.
Maybe you scare them because they don't understand you, if they tease you about wanting to hang out with boys could you say something like " I don't go out with boys yet because it would contradict my beliefs, would you like me to explain my beliefs to you? ", you may find that they are more receptive than you think.
Also maybe you need to think about how you come across to people ( thinking of my own situation here ), sometimes when people are very sure of themselves and their understandings they put up barriers to people who maybe don't share their "high standards", something I have learn't is that sometimes your very best friends don't live life as you do, but it's still good because your learn from them and they learn from you. Try talking to some of the students, find out about what they like doing and see if you have any common interests even though you are on different life paths.
Ultimately though if you feel you are being bullied speak to somebody and get their help, good luck, let us know how you are getting on.
Love SaffronXX
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I have been successful in forming groups .I asked the faculty to intervene.I can't let people bully me .I don't believe in serving as a one night stand and academics is not about bargaining wherein you trade your soul to get things done.
Thanks for messaging me:):):)
Answers:
hi there
I wonder if you might also like to chat to someone outside of college?
I agree that the student team/counsellor/tutor would be excellent and here is a link if you could do with someone outside as well/instead
enjoy your studies
tigress