Need Female help pls!!!
Hello
I am a young male of little experinace with female matters. My gf is about a week late with her cycle. Here is the kicker. We do fool around but we have not had intercourse, we did fool around afew times this month, we do make contac with out protection of anykind. I NEED some body to tell me she inst pregnate.
she is 19 if that means anyhting special. If she is undersome kind of stess how long should it take to come?
she usally is very time,
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First thing is Dont panic!!.
The 2nd is that it is possible for her to be pregnant, but less likely than if you had full sex.
Stress can indeed cause periods to be late. But at your young age you have to accept that you are very fertile and any type of close contact sexually needs protection.
The thing to do now is for her to go to her GP to discuss the matter or she could do a pregnancy test herself, I believe they are very cheap in superdrug. There are pregnancy advice services that will do tests free and will help you make decisions. Also the local walk in sexual health clinics will help.
Believe me, parents although they may be shocked at first should help you and be supportive, if you cant face that yet talk to an older sister, friend or aunt that is sympathetic, but dont discuss it with your mates generally as you could later regret it..
Bless you both and really hope she isn't for your sakes, if she isn't, dont take any chances in the future. Lastly babies dont mean the end of the world, do what you feel is best for yourselves and dont let other people make decisions for you.
Jan x
Try this website WWW.bpas.org (British pregnancy advice service )
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Ok thank you, but how long should it be before it does come?
is there a time ware if it doesnt come she is preg?
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your best bet is to do a pregnancy test, at least then you know what you are dealing with, and then it removes the stress of am I arnt I, which could be causing the late period
Good luck to you both
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Hi. I am a bit confused about your post because you say that you don't have intercourse but you do fool around without protection. So I am not sure whether you have actually done anything to cause pregnancy or not.
You do need to get her a pregnancy test done and you could go to a Brook Advisory Center for this. I hope that it isn't necessary and that she isn't pregnant and that you can put this behind you. You both need to sort out some sort of contraception for the future or you might find yourself in this stressful situation again soon.
Periods can be late for lots of reasons and some women don't have a regular cycle anyway, have you asked her if this is the case with her?
I hope you sort it out and then get some protection and then you can put this worry behind you.
Please let us know how things go.
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Candie
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Candie
i am sorry for little detail but my posts are screened as a new member and I neede to get my questions asap,
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Just A Guy…
Stress can cause a period to disappear for as long as 3 months, sometimes even longer.
How late is your girlfriend?
Like Candie above said, it is not clear if you and your girlfriend have actually done anything to get her pregnant.
The only way for you to get a quick answer is to go and buy a pregnancy test. The test just takes a minute or two to do.
Amber
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Hi Just a Guy
You need to know what you're girlfriends cycle is like - does she have periods regularly every 28 days or does she fluctuate. Based on this you can say how late or whether you think her period is late. Pregnancy tests are easily available from chemists. are very accurate and easy to use and can be used as soon as you think a period is late. You can usually buy a double test for cheaper than the cost of a single test, so if the first is negative and you're still worried wait a few days and repeat the test.
It is a very worrying time for you both. Please let us know how you get on and post if you have more questions.
Sonia
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Hi
There is no point worrying about something you cannot control, you just have to find out whether she is pregnant or not. Unfortuantely periods can be late for a whole variety of reasons. Please don't wait to see if her period comes in a couple of days or weeks, the anxiety for you and her really isn't necessary.
Let me tell you a story,
When I was a young, I had protected sex with my boyfriend and one day my period was late. I was absolutely terrified, I used all my money to buy a pregnancy test, but old kits use to be really complicated and I couldn't figure out if it worked or not. I refused to go to a family planning clinic because they wanted my name and address and I definitely couldn't tell my mum. I was left not knowing if I was pregnant or not. I was convinced for every single minute of my life for the next 2 months that I was pregnant, my mind began to play tricks with me, every queazy feeling I had compounded this and I became seriously bonkers and even tried injuring my tummy. One day, without explanation my period arrived, but because by this time I had convinced myself I was pregnant, I was then convinced it was a miscarrige.
Obviously I now know that the stress of not knowing probably stopped me getting my period it took well over 60 days to arrive, but because of my fear I could have ended up with a baby that I didn't want.
The point of this story please don't be as stupid as I was No matter how terrified you are you must find out the truth and that if you are terrified your girlfriend will be 100 times more terrified. Be there for her completely, because she will be feeling very lonely.
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AngleFish that must have been truly terrifying for you. All that time in fear.
Just a Guy. I know your posts are screened and did consider contacting you but thought better of it as I didn't want to cause you further trouble. Please feel free to PM or email me if you would like to discuss things more.
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My gf's cycle is basicly unknowen to both of us. for about the first year and half we have been dating, every couple of moneth she would complain about not haveing had a period in a while (which was only assumed) so i began to keep track. So for the past three monthes i have been keeping it on my schedual. the first 2 monthes arrived on the day and now this one is way off.
A good sign was today she had a salt craving, and she tells me this is a sign of a period =)
so i hope in the next day or two i will be able to post that it has started. I think that this is around the 12 or 13th late day.
JUST_A_GUY
ps. thank you ALL for all of your comments, it makes me feel good that people on the other side of the world care enough for a stanger to write. Bless you all
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It sounds like it will be ok, she is irregular anyway. Very glad for you and you are welcome.
Now be a very good boy:D and get yourselves sorted!
Let us know. OK?
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It's good to hear that you care & keep an eye on things, but she really needs to get to grips with the comings and goings herself, as well. No pun intended.
I'm probably sticking my neck out on this one, but some girls/women are inherently irregular, which I would consider that their general health may not be so good. Although I imagine that the orthodix medical view would be that - that's just how some women are and that's 'normal' for them.
Andrew.
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well... just shy of two weeks its a fact, i am NOT a father. Thank you for all your help. I have learned many lessions, such as "always use protection" and the feamle body is alot more mysterious then i thought. I also bite most of my nails off.
You have all been a great help to me, best wishes
Merry Christmas
(or Happy Holidays)
JUST_A_GUY
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just A Guy ,
I'm not going to add any advice to the excellent stuff given above. I just want to say Good luck hunni what ever happens .. you will always have an out let here as will your girlfriend.. Don't be a stranger now;)
Love & Hugs Maria xxx
I am a young male of little experinace with female matters. My gf is about a week late with her cycle. Here is the kicker. We do fool around but we have not had intercourse, we did fool around afew times this month, we do make contac with out protection of anykind. I NEED some body to tell me she inst pregnate.
she is 19 if that means anyhting special. If she is undersome kind of stess how long should it take to come?
she usally is very time,
Answers:
First thing is Dont panic!!.
The 2nd is that it is possible for her to be pregnant, but less likely than if you had full sex.
Stress can indeed cause periods to be late. But at your young age you have to accept that you are very fertile and any type of close contact sexually needs protection.
The thing to do now is for her to go to her GP to discuss the matter or she could do a pregnancy test herself, I believe they are very cheap in superdrug. There are pregnancy advice services that will do tests free and will help you make decisions. Also the local walk in sexual health clinics will help.
Believe me, parents although they may be shocked at first should help you and be supportive, if you cant face that yet talk to an older sister, friend or aunt that is sympathetic, but dont discuss it with your mates generally as you could later regret it..
Bless you both and really hope she isn't for your sakes, if she isn't, dont take any chances in the future. Lastly babies dont mean the end of the world, do what you feel is best for yourselves and dont let other people make decisions for you.
Jan x
Try this website WWW.bpas.org (British pregnancy advice service )
Answers:
Ok thank you, but how long should it be before it does come?
is there a time ware if it doesnt come she is preg?
Answers:
your best bet is to do a pregnancy test, at least then you know what you are dealing with, and then it removes the stress of am I arnt I, which could be causing the late period
Good luck to you both
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Hi. I am a bit confused about your post because you say that you don't have intercourse but you do fool around without protection. So I am not sure whether you have actually done anything to cause pregnancy or not.
You do need to get her a pregnancy test done and you could go to a Brook Advisory Center for this. I hope that it isn't necessary and that she isn't pregnant and that you can put this behind you. You both need to sort out some sort of contraception for the future or you might find yourself in this stressful situation again soon.
Periods can be late for lots of reasons and some women don't have a regular cycle anyway, have you asked her if this is the case with her?
I hope you sort it out and then get some protection and then you can put this worry behind you.
Please let us know how things go.
Answers:
Candie
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Candie
i am sorry for little detail but my posts are screened as a new member and I neede to get my questions asap,
Answers:
Just A Guy…
Stress can cause a period to disappear for as long as 3 months, sometimes even longer.
How late is your girlfriend?
Like Candie above said, it is not clear if you and your girlfriend have actually done anything to get her pregnant.
The only way for you to get a quick answer is to go and buy a pregnancy test. The test just takes a minute or two to do.
Amber
Answers:
Hi Just a Guy
You need to know what you're girlfriends cycle is like - does she have periods regularly every 28 days or does she fluctuate. Based on this you can say how late or whether you think her period is late. Pregnancy tests are easily available from chemists. are very accurate and easy to use and can be used as soon as you think a period is late. You can usually buy a double test for cheaper than the cost of a single test, so if the first is negative and you're still worried wait a few days and repeat the test.
It is a very worrying time for you both. Please let us know how you get on and post if you have more questions.
Sonia
Answers:
Hi
There is no point worrying about something you cannot control, you just have to find out whether she is pregnant or not. Unfortuantely periods can be late for a whole variety of reasons. Please don't wait to see if her period comes in a couple of days or weeks, the anxiety for you and her really isn't necessary.
Let me tell you a story,
When I was a young, I had protected sex with my boyfriend and one day my period was late. I was absolutely terrified, I used all my money to buy a pregnancy test, but old kits use to be really complicated and I couldn't figure out if it worked or not. I refused to go to a family planning clinic because they wanted my name and address and I definitely couldn't tell my mum. I was left not knowing if I was pregnant or not. I was convinced for every single minute of my life for the next 2 months that I was pregnant, my mind began to play tricks with me, every queazy feeling I had compounded this and I became seriously bonkers and even tried injuring my tummy. One day, without explanation my period arrived, but because by this time I had convinced myself I was pregnant, I was then convinced it was a miscarrige.
Obviously I now know that the stress of not knowing probably stopped me getting my period it took well over 60 days to arrive, but because of my fear I could have ended up with a baby that I didn't want.
The point of this story please don't be as stupid as I was No matter how terrified you are you must find out the truth and that if you are terrified your girlfriend will be 100 times more terrified. Be there for her completely, because she will be feeling very lonely.
Answers:
AngleFish that must have been truly terrifying for you. All that time in fear.
Just a Guy. I know your posts are screened and did consider contacting you but thought better of it as I didn't want to cause you further trouble. Please feel free to PM or email me if you would like to discuss things more.
Answers:
My gf's cycle is basicly unknowen to both of us. for about the first year and half we have been dating, every couple of moneth she would complain about not haveing had a period in a while (which was only assumed) so i began to keep track. So for the past three monthes i have been keeping it on my schedual. the first 2 monthes arrived on the day and now this one is way off.
A good sign was today she had a salt craving, and she tells me this is a sign of a period =)
so i hope in the next day or two i will be able to post that it has started. I think that this is around the 12 or 13th late day.
JUST_A_GUY
ps. thank you ALL for all of your comments, it makes me feel good that people on the other side of the world care enough for a stanger to write. Bless you all
Answers:
It sounds like it will be ok, she is irregular anyway. Very glad for you and you are welcome.
Now be a very good boy:D and get yourselves sorted!
Let us know. OK?
Answers:
It's good to hear that you care & keep an eye on things, but she really needs to get to grips with the comings and goings herself, as well. No pun intended.
I'm probably sticking my neck out on this one, but some girls/women are inherently irregular, which I would consider that their general health may not be so good. Although I imagine that the orthodix medical view would be that - that's just how some women are and that's 'normal' for them.
Andrew.
Answers:
well... just shy of two weeks its a fact, i am NOT a father. Thank you for all your help. I have learned many lessions, such as "always use protection" and the feamle body is alot more mysterious then i thought. I also bite most of my nails off.
You have all been a great help to me, best wishes
Merry Christmas
(or Happy Holidays)
JUST_A_GUY
Answers:
just A Guy ,
I'm not going to add any advice to the excellent stuff given above. I just want to say Good luck hunni what ever happens .. you will always have an out let here as will your girlfriend.. Don't be a stranger now;)
Love & Hugs Maria xxx