Sooo I called her up ...
Sooo I called her up ...
Okay so this girl gave me her number 2 weeks ago and we work together whatnot paraphenilia. So flirt all the time etc etc at work.
So i called her up today. At about 1. And she starts up her work at 430. "Im all like hey whats up wanna come chill, go for a walk or something." Shes like "Okay Okay ill be over around two I just gotta go get ready and stuff."
2 roles buy shes doesnt come yet. Sooo... at 2:20 I get a txt from her. This is like word for word. "Umm rachel is over and we have to make a list for my friends going away party so if we have time we will come over."
This was at 2:20 and she starts work at 4:30. So im like wtf mate im not going to do that so i txt back "no thx i got some things to go do".
now heres the question... should i ever call her back? Did I do the right thing?
My gameplan is just be nice just never call her again. Also she normally iniciates conversations and such, ex. she often txts me out of the blue.
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id wait a couple wees before attempting again..that way u dont look desparate
1st off. Stop texting, start calling more. Real conversations are much more personal and are better overall.
2nd. I like your idea of never calling her again. If you call her, you look desperate, and you're not desperate.
3rd. Go out and get other chicks numbers, but wait a like 2-3 days before calling them. Invite them to something you're "already doing", that way they don't think you're asking for permission to hang out, you're just telling them that they are welcome to hang with YOU.
You >> Women.
Go, and goodluck!
I think you handled it well.
Just sayin
"no thx i got some things to go do".
I wouldn't of said that, to me that is sort of like "ok whatever"... I would of probably responded with "something just came up and I can't chill today, i would still like to hang out with you sometime though" or something, whatever you like, just more nicely put
Aren't you that tool who hates Canada? If so I hope you get leprosy. If not disregard.
good job dave man
definitely the right thing to do.
(btw hating canada is like hating small kitties. its just wrong)
lol saying "no thx" always comes out as dick... you should have said you'd be gone by then or some shit like that but maybe another time then leave it up to her as to when you hang out again, far as your concerned never calling her...
And texting is ****ing lame.
x3 on texting being lame. I messed up a potential relationship because I got sucked into texting all the time....i would hardly ever call either, lol.
yes actually i only txtd when i asked if she worked... then i called and had the conversation. she txtd me after saying she couldnt, so i txtd back because i had no interest to call her.
Also im going to see her probably at work this weekend since normally shes workin same time as me atleast sat or sun, sometimes both.
should i a)play it off like nothing happened b)just act casual but not try to iniciate conversation etc etc or c)other
secondly this one is really shocking me that what happened happened. she was the one who got my number and i would like look up and shed be checking me out i could tell she is 100% interested. whats the reason for blowing me off... besides "planning a party with rachel". oh and this was the first time i called her so i wasnt looking desperate, and she gave me her number 2 weeks ago.
should i a)play it off like nothing happened b)just act casual but not try to iniciate conversation etc etc or c)other Um... do what you always did. Why should you change?
Man, I would have just told her I'm going for the walk anyways. You sounded like an ass on that text back and you basically lowered your value. It didn't come off as "alpha" at all.
Um... do what you always did. Why should you change?
Man, I would have just told her I'm going for the walk anyways. You sounded like an ass on that text back and you basically lowered your value. It didn't come off as "alpha" at all. dammit
Um... do what you always did. Why should you change?
Man, I would have just told her I'm going for the walk anyways. You sounded like an ass on that text back and you basically lowered your value. It didn't come off as "alpha" at all. x2,
You came off as someone who got in a mood over it, yes she gave you a lame excuse. I wouldn't have even text back. Her loss.
Um... do what you always did. Why should you change?
Man, I would have just told her I'm going for the walk anyways. You sounded like an ass on that text back and you basically lowered your value. It didn't come off as "alpha" at all. i dont understand how i come off rude. well..maybe but some other factors come into play here.
-she agrees to do something, etc, etc.
-is late
-20 minutes later txts me she cant (doesnt even call)
-also think about this if i called her when she got up and agreed to do something. she either called rachel or rachel called her thus she had no problem blowing me off.
wouldnt that also be classified under rude?
i dont understand how i come off rude. well..maybe but some other factors come into play here.
-she agrees to do something, etc, etc.
-is late
-20 minutes later txts me she cant (doesnt even call)
-also think about this if i called her when she got up and agreed to do something. she either called rachel or rachel called her thus she had no problem blowing me off.
wouldnt that also be classified under rude? She was too much of a pussy to tell you no over the phone, you might have asked her why, she'd have to expain herself. Her texting you after agreeing is an easy thing to do, no confrontation. Most likely there was no Rachel.
i dont understand how i come off rude. well..maybe but some other factors come into play here.
-she agrees to do something, etc, etc.
-is late
-20 minutes later txts me she cant (doesnt even call)
-also think about this if i called her when she got up and agreed to do something. she either called rachel or rachel called her thus she had no problem blowing me off.
wouldnt that also be classified under rude? she played you like a fool...you definately did the right thing by acting a little pissed in your text back to her. I strongly disagree with the above posters saying to just blow it off like its nothing to you but if you do have any relations of any sort with her later she will think "oh well if i blow him off he wont really care anyway". let her know who calls the shots.
she played you like a fool...you definately did the right thing by acting a little pissed in your text back to her. I strongly disagree with the above posters saying to just blow it off like its nothing to you but if you do have any relations of any sort with her later she will think "oh well if i blow him off he wont really care anyway". let her know who calls the shots. but.. if i confront her.. will i not look desperate?
x2,
I wouldn't have even text back. Her loss. i agree
move on
but.. if i confront her.. will i not look desperate? yea, i didnt intend in my post to say confront her, at least for a couple of weeks. you would definately look desperate then
dude just kind of ignore her, if she gets chatty then just be normal.
she played you like a fool...you definately did the right thing by acting a little pissed in your text back to her. I strongly disagree with the above posters saying to just blow it off like its nothing to you but if you do have any relations of any sort with her later she will think "oh well if i blow him off he wont really care anyway". let her know who calls the shots. He didn't sound pissed. He sounded like an idiot.
When I say rude, I mean stupid and inappropriate. You essentially told her straight up that you don't have a life.
good job dave man
definitely the right thing to do.
(btw hating canada is like hating small kitties. its just wrong) wow, I have seen quite a few other Vancouverites on this board lately. anyone else go to UBC? (no hijack)
Yeah I called her up, she gave me a bunch of crap about me not listening to her, or something, I don't know, I wasn't really paying attention.
He didn't sound pissed. He sounded like an idiot.
When I say rude, I mean stupid and inappropriate. You essentially told her straight up that you don't have a life. thats shitty
He didn't sound pissed. He sounded like an idiot.
When I say rude, I mean stupid and inappropriate. You essentially told her straight up that you don't have a life. like an idiot?
she was the one who decided to blow me off 20 minutes later.
Yeah I called her up, she gave me a bunch of crap about me not listening to her, or something, I don't know, I wasn't really paying attention. Don't you hate when they start talking in that high pitched voice that is impossible to pay attention to then get mad when we don't pay attn? Jebus.
your analyzing this shit too much. If she's interested, she'll contact you again.
Okay so this girl gave me her number 2 weeks ago and we work together whatnot paraphenilia. So flirt all the time etc etc at work.
So i called her up today. At about 1. And she starts up her work at 430. "Im all like hey whats up wanna come chill, go for a walk or something." Shes like "Okay Okay ill be over around two I just gotta go get ready and stuff."
2 roles buy shes doesnt come yet. Sooo... at 2:20 I get a txt from her. This is like word for word. "Umm rachel is over and we have to make a list for my friends going away party so if we have time we will come over."
This was at 2:20 and she starts work at 4:30. So im like wtf mate im not going to do that so i txt back "no thx i got some things to go do".
now heres the question... should i ever call her back? Did I do the right thing?
My gameplan is just be nice just never call her again. Also she normally iniciates conversations and such, ex. she often txts me out of the blue.
Discuss
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id wait a couple wees before attempting again..that way u dont look desparate
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1st off. Stop texting, start calling more. Real conversations are much more personal and are better overall.
2nd. I like your idea of never calling her again. If you call her, you look desperate, and you're not desperate.
3rd. Go out and get other chicks numbers, but wait a like 2-3 days before calling them. Invite them to something you're "already doing", that way they don't think you're asking for permission to hang out, you're just telling them that they are welcome to hang with YOU.
You >> Women.
Go, and goodluck!
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I think you handled it well.
Just sayin
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"no thx i got some things to go do".
I wouldn't of said that, to me that is sort of like "ok whatever"... I would of probably responded with "something just came up and I can't chill today, i would still like to hang out with you sometime though" or something, whatever you like, just more nicely put
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Aren't you that tool who hates Canada? If so I hope you get leprosy. If not disregard.
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good job dave man
definitely the right thing to do.
(btw hating canada is like hating small kitties. its just wrong)
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lol saying "no thx" always comes out as dick... you should have said you'd be gone by then or some shit like that but maybe another time then leave it up to her as to when you hang out again, far as your concerned never calling her...
And texting is ****ing lame.
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x3 on texting being lame. I messed up a potential relationship because I got sucked into texting all the time....i would hardly ever call either, lol.
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yes actually i only txtd when i asked if she worked... then i called and had the conversation. she txtd me after saying she couldnt, so i txtd back because i had no interest to call her.
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Also im going to see her probably at work this weekend since normally shes workin same time as me atleast sat or sun, sometimes both.
should i a)play it off like nothing happened b)just act casual but not try to iniciate conversation etc etc or c)other
secondly this one is really shocking me that what happened happened. she was the one who got my number and i would like look up and shed be checking me out i could tell she is 100% interested. whats the reason for blowing me off... besides "planning a party with rachel". oh and this was the first time i called her so i wasnt looking desperate, and she gave me her number 2 weeks ago.
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should i a)play it off like nothing happened b)just act casual but not try to iniciate conversation etc etc or c)other Um... do what you always did. Why should you change?
Man, I would have just told her I'm going for the walk anyways. You sounded like an ass on that text back and you basically lowered your value. It didn't come off as "alpha" at all.
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Um... do what you always did. Why should you change?
Man, I would have just told her I'm going for the walk anyways. You sounded like an ass on that text back and you basically lowered your value. It didn't come off as "alpha" at all. dammit
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Um... do what you always did. Why should you change?
Man, I would have just told her I'm going for the walk anyways. You sounded like an ass on that text back and you basically lowered your value. It didn't come off as "alpha" at all. x2,
You came off as someone who got in a mood over it, yes she gave you a lame excuse. I wouldn't have even text back. Her loss.
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Um... do what you always did. Why should you change?
Man, I would have just told her I'm going for the walk anyways. You sounded like an ass on that text back and you basically lowered your value. It didn't come off as "alpha" at all. i dont understand how i come off rude. well..maybe but some other factors come into play here.
-she agrees to do something, etc, etc.
-is late
-20 minutes later txts me she cant (doesnt even call)
-also think about this if i called her when she got up and agreed to do something. she either called rachel or rachel called her thus she had no problem blowing me off.
wouldnt that also be classified under rude?
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i dont understand how i come off rude. well..maybe but some other factors come into play here.
-she agrees to do something, etc, etc.
-is late
-20 minutes later txts me she cant (doesnt even call)
-also think about this if i called her when she got up and agreed to do something. she either called rachel or rachel called her thus she had no problem blowing me off.
wouldnt that also be classified under rude? She was too much of a pussy to tell you no over the phone, you might have asked her why, she'd have to expain herself. Her texting you after agreeing is an easy thing to do, no confrontation. Most likely there was no Rachel.
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i dont understand how i come off rude. well..maybe but some other factors come into play here.
-she agrees to do something, etc, etc.
-is late
-20 minutes later txts me she cant (doesnt even call)
-also think about this if i called her when she got up and agreed to do something. she either called rachel or rachel called her thus she had no problem blowing me off.
wouldnt that also be classified under rude? she played you like a fool...you definately did the right thing by acting a little pissed in your text back to her. I strongly disagree with the above posters saying to just blow it off like its nothing to you but if you do have any relations of any sort with her later she will think "oh well if i blow him off he wont really care anyway". let her know who calls the shots.
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she played you like a fool...you definately did the right thing by acting a little pissed in your text back to her. I strongly disagree with the above posters saying to just blow it off like its nothing to you but if you do have any relations of any sort with her later she will think "oh well if i blow him off he wont really care anyway". let her know who calls the shots. but.. if i confront her.. will i not look desperate?
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x2,
I wouldn't have even text back. Her loss. i agree
move on
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but.. if i confront her.. will i not look desperate? yea, i didnt intend in my post to say confront her, at least for a couple of weeks. you would definately look desperate then
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dude just kind of ignore her, if she gets chatty then just be normal.
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she played you like a fool...you definately did the right thing by acting a little pissed in your text back to her. I strongly disagree with the above posters saying to just blow it off like its nothing to you but if you do have any relations of any sort with her later she will think "oh well if i blow him off he wont really care anyway". let her know who calls the shots. He didn't sound pissed. He sounded like an idiot.
When I say rude, I mean stupid and inappropriate. You essentially told her straight up that you don't have a life.
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good job dave man
definitely the right thing to do.
(btw hating canada is like hating small kitties. its just wrong) wow, I have seen quite a few other Vancouverites on this board lately. anyone else go to UBC? (no hijack)
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Yeah I called her up, she gave me a bunch of crap about me not listening to her, or something, I don't know, I wasn't really paying attention.
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He didn't sound pissed. He sounded like an idiot.
When I say rude, I mean stupid and inappropriate. You essentially told her straight up that you don't have a life. thats shitty
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He didn't sound pissed. He sounded like an idiot.
When I say rude, I mean stupid and inappropriate. You essentially told her straight up that you don't have a life. like an idiot?
she was the one who decided to blow me off 20 minutes later.
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Yeah I called her up, she gave me a bunch of crap about me not listening to her, or something, I don't know, I wasn't really paying attention. Don't you hate when they start talking in that high pitched voice that is impossible to pay attention to then get mad when we don't pay attn? Jebus.
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your analyzing this shit too much. If she's interested, she'll contact you again.