Adoption
Adoption
I'm thinking of adopting kids in a few years when I am set and off.
Is anyone here adopted or has anyone here adopted? Know anyone who adopt?
I can afford it but I'm just thinking about the problems that might come with it, what kind of problems?..
Are you planning to adopt while single?
Are you planning to adopt while single? Possibly, no idea.
I know several adopted people and they all are quite happy. You have to be willing to accept that no matter how much you love them they may want to find their biological parent someday, as closure.
It is a noble thing to raise a child and give them a loving parent
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I know several adopted people and they all are quite happy. You have to be willing to accept that no matter how much you love them they may want to find their biological parent someday, as closure.
It is a noble thing to raise a child and give them a loving parent
www.recomp.com
RPN "Please be patient as we upgrade our product page."
What's that link for?
I don't mind if they find their biological parents. In fact, I hope they do and not forget me. That's all. :)
I'm thinking of adopting kids in a few years when I am set and off.
Is anyone here adopted or has anyone here adopted? Know anyone who adopt?
I can afford it but I'm just thinking about the problems that might come with it, what kind of problems?.. We adopted our son in 1994 and our daughter in 1997, both as infants, both from the USA. We used an agency called Bethany Christian Services, which I highly recommend.
A number of issues are: (1) Are you willing to adopt out-of-country? There can be a lot of international "red tape" with this. Usually, at least 2 trips to the child's home country are required, judging from friends' experiences. (2) You will always wait longer for an infant than for an older child. As you can guess, quite a few up-for-adoption kids come with some "baggage" from their home lives up until that point. (3) You will always (no racist) pay higher adoption fees for adopting Caucasian kids. We are both white, but adopted through Bethany's biracial/transracial adoption program. Our son is multi-racial; our daughter is African-American. (4) "Special needs" children, for example with debilitating diseases (even infants) are pretty much there and waiting for adoptive parents, compared with 100% healthy kids.
Oh, yeah, I forgot: Another issue these days (and even back when we adopted) is your willingness or unwillingness to have what is called an "open adoption" which means that the child's birthparen(s), usually only the birth-mother, will be allowed to keep in touch with the child as he/she grows up. Being open to that reduces your wait time.
Adoption has been an enormously rewarding experience for us. PM me if you have any specific questions you think I may be able to help with.
Possibly, no idea. Hmmm... that may be tough (for you and the kid) unless you work from home. Are you planning on adopting an infant? toddler? someone already in school?
I'm thinking of adopting kids in a few years when I am set and off.
Is anyone here adopted or has anyone here adopted? Know anyone who adopt?
I can afford it but I'm just thinking about the problems that might come with it, what kind of problems?.. Excellent! So many children who need homes, and not enough people willing to adopt them. Kudos to you!
My nephew and his wife adopted two children. My niece-in-law is unable to have children. They adopted a boy and a girl out of Russia. Matthew (Russian name was Yuri) was 6 mos, old (now 10 years old), Alyssa (Russian name Galina) was 6 months old, and is now 8 years old. The year the kids were adopted, there were 10,000 babies adopted out of Russia. Delta flew so often between the US and Russia with adopted children that the flights were called "The Baby Flights".
Anyhoo... the two kids know all about their ancestry and Russian heritage. There is a group of Russian ex-patriots who keep in touch and are sort of mentors for the adopted children, to keep their heritage alive. I think the biggest mistake is to keep it from the children that they are adopted. I knew someone who used to say she was "selected" by her parents.
My guess would be the only problems you'd run into are if the adoption was handled incorrectly and there was some custody issue; if the birth parents came back later and were kooks (no nice way to say it, imo) looking to cause trouble intentionally or unintentionally.
For a long time, I actually dated a girl who was adopted out of Russia. She ended up having a very bitter falling out with her "parents", but it was over a couple unrelated issues.
As for identity, she said she was fine growing up. She was half-Afghan, actually, but born in Russia. I have no idea how that happened, and the only thing she could ever find out about her parents was her biological father's name. Turns out he was probably a high-ranking Red Army officer...and then we hit a brick wall.
Still, she says she never wished anything else had happened, and didn't hold any grudges on anyone.
But I digress. From what I saw, the adoption thing works fine and gives kids a good home in the vast majority of cases. Go for it.
Hm... a lot to seriously think about... I need some time to think about this before I can provide a response sorry guys. However anymore input would be appreciated.
My daughter's best friend (they're 7) was adopted out of horrific circumstances in Russia when she was 3. It's an incredible story - from one extreme of life to another. I also have a friend who has adopted three children (two brothers plus a little girl); they're a mixed-race family and they're huge adoptions advocates. But theirs is an open adoption and I just don't think I could do that. I guess I'd have to really research the laws - where is it that the couple raised the little girl until she was about 8 years old and her Chinese parents just recently were awarded custody back? OMG that's just such a tragic story, that poor little girl!! I wouldn't mind a grown child looking for their adoptive parents; my fear would be the birth parent coming after my kid!
I would seriously consider adopting from overseas, however. When I was pregnant the second time we decided if it was another girl that we'd start looking into adopting a boy - I wouldn't have taken a chance on having three girls!!! But #2 was a boy so we haven't pursued it. I still would but, at least for now, my husband isn't feeling it.
Personally, I just don't understand people have 4, 5, 6 kids - nobody's genes are that great! There are so many babies that need families. I feel like it was pretty selfish to have the two I had.
It's good that you want to adopt rather than contribute to the overpopulation of the planet. Also, you can give some kid from the third world a nice life here in the States. :)
YA, IMMA get me one of those yellow babies from China.
THEY ARE SO CUTE!!
Plus ill make her take piano lessons from age 4 and do SAT and MCAT prep from age 10.
My baby Cung Lee is going to Stanford fo shizzee.
Seriously I think Asian babies are SOOOOO cute, I do wanna adopt a little asian girl one day.
I'm thinking of adopting kids in a few years when I am set and off.
Is anyone here adopted or has anyone here adopted? Know anyone who adopt?
I can afford it but I'm just thinking about the problems that might come with it, what kind of problems?.. Reps! I'm always thrilled to hear of people wanting to adopt. It's how I plan on having my kids, so I've done quite a bit of research into it.
As a young, single male, it wil be more difficult. International adoption is mostly for people that are at least 25 or 30 (depending on the country) and some require that you have been married a certain length of time.
Domestic infant adoption is a better possbility, and often has a long wait time.
Waiting child/foster-to-adopt is another way, and will sometimes be older kids or ones with some challeges.
Honestly, I'd suggest you wait more than just a few years and take plenty of child development/psychology/behavior classes at a college. Working at a counseling agency that helps kids has taught me just HOW much education a good parent needs.
I would suggest adoption.com... there are some excellent forums somewhere... it might be there. I'll get back to you on that.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9yBXmJ_2NfI
If this doesnt make you smile honestly you are dead on the inside.
It's good that you want to adopt rather than contribute to the overpopulation of the planet. Also, you can give some kid from the third world a nice life here in the States. :) My thoughts exactly.
YA, IMMA get me one of those yellow babies from China.
THEY ARE SO CUTE!!
Plus ill make her take piano lessons from age 4 and do SAT and MCAT prep from age 10.
My baby Cung Lee is going to Stanford fo shizzee.
Seriously I think Asian babies are SOOOOO cute, I do wanna adopt a little asian girl one day. Just don't use any of us as a reference on the application after that post.
I'm thinking of adopting kids in a few years when I am set and off.
Is anyone here adopted or has anyone here adopted? Know anyone who adopt?
I can afford it but I'm just thinking about the problems that might come with it, what kind of problems?.. Man your 20! Im two years older then you in a career and graduated and I know im years away from even thinking of kids! Live life alittle while your still young.
I'm thinking of adopting kids in a few years when I am set and off.
Is anyone here adopted or has anyone here adopted? Know anyone who adopt?
I can afford it but I'm just thinking about the problems that might come with it, what kind of problems?..
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Are you planning to adopt while single?
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Are you planning to adopt while single? Possibly, no idea.
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I know several adopted people and they all are quite happy. You have to be willing to accept that no matter how much you love them they may want to find their biological parent someday, as closure.
It is a noble thing to raise a child and give them a loving parent
www.recomp.com
RPN
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I know several adopted people and they all are quite happy. You have to be willing to accept that no matter how much you love them they may want to find their biological parent someday, as closure.
It is a noble thing to raise a child and give them a loving parent
www.recomp.com
RPN "Please be patient as we upgrade our product page."
What's that link for?
I don't mind if they find their biological parents. In fact, I hope they do and not forget me. That's all. :)
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I'm thinking of adopting kids in a few years when I am set and off.
Is anyone here adopted or has anyone here adopted? Know anyone who adopt?
I can afford it but I'm just thinking about the problems that might come with it, what kind of problems?.. We adopted our son in 1994 and our daughter in 1997, both as infants, both from the USA. We used an agency called Bethany Christian Services, which I highly recommend.
A number of issues are: (1) Are you willing to adopt out-of-country? There can be a lot of international "red tape" with this. Usually, at least 2 trips to the child's home country are required, judging from friends' experiences. (2) You will always wait longer for an infant than for an older child. As you can guess, quite a few up-for-adoption kids come with some "baggage" from their home lives up until that point. (3) You will always (no racist) pay higher adoption fees for adopting Caucasian kids. We are both white, but adopted through Bethany's biracial/transracial adoption program. Our son is multi-racial; our daughter is African-American. (4) "Special needs" children, for example with debilitating diseases (even infants) are pretty much there and waiting for adoptive parents, compared with 100% healthy kids.
Oh, yeah, I forgot: Another issue these days (and even back when we adopted) is your willingness or unwillingness to have what is called an "open adoption" which means that the child's birthparen(s), usually only the birth-mother, will be allowed to keep in touch with the child as he/she grows up. Being open to that reduces your wait time.
Adoption has been an enormously rewarding experience for us. PM me if you have any specific questions you think I may be able to help with.
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Possibly, no idea. Hmmm... that may be tough (for you and the kid) unless you work from home. Are you planning on adopting an infant? toddler? someone already in school?
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I'm thinking of adopting kids in a few years when I am set and off.
Is anyone here adopted or has anyone here adopted? Know anyone who adopt?
I can afford it but I'm just thinking about the problems that might come with it, what kind of problems?.. Excellent! So many children who need homes, and not enough people willing to adopt them. Kudos to you!
My nephew and his wife adopted two children. My niece-in-law is unable to have children. They adopted a boy and a girl out of Russia. Matthew (Russian name was Yuri) was 6 mos, old (now 10 years old), Alyssa (Russian name Galina) was 6 months old, and is now 8 years old. The year the kids were adopted, there were 10,000 babies adopted out of Russia. Delta flew so often between the US and Russia with adopted children that the flights were called "The Baby Flights".
Anyhoo... the two kids know all about their ancestry and Russian heritage. There is a group of Russian ex-patriots who keep in touch and are sort of mentors for the adopted children, to keep their heritage alive. I think the biggest mistake is to keep it from the children that they are adopted. I knew someone who used to say she was "selected" by her parents.
My guess would be the only problems you'd run into are if the adoption was handled incorrectly and there was some custody issue; if the birth parents came back later and were kooks (no nice way to say it, imo) looking to cause trouble intentionally or unintentionally.
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For a long time, I actually dated a girl who was adopted out of Russia. She ended up having a very bitter falling out with her "parents", but it was over a couple unrelated issues.
As for identity, she said she was fine growing up. She was half-Afghan, actually, but born in Russia. I have no idea how that happened, and the only thing she could ever find out about her parents was her biological father's name. Turns out he was probably a high-ranking Red Army officer...and then we hit a brick wall.
Still, she says she never wished anything else had happened, and didn't hold any grudges on anyone.
But I digress. From what I saw, the adoption thing works fine and gives kids a good home in the vast majority of cases. Go for it.
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Hm... a lot to seriously think about... I need some time to think about this before I can provide a response sorry guys. However anymore input would be appreciated.
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My daughter's best friend (they're 7) was adopted out of horrific circumstances in Russia when she was 3. It's an incredible story - from one extreme of life to another. I also have a friend who has adopted three children (two brothers plus a little girl); they're a mixed-race family and they're huge adoptions advocates. But theirs is an open adoption and I just don't think I could do that. I guess I'd have to really research the laws - where is it that the couple raised the little girl until she was about 8 years old and her Chinese parents just recently were awarded custody back? OMG that's just such a tragic story, that poor little girl!! I wouldn't mind a grown child looking for their adoptive parents; my fear would be the birth parent coming after my kid!
I would seriously consider adopting from overseas, however. When I was pregnant the second time we decided if it was another girl that we'd start looking into adopting a boy - I wouldn't have taken a chance on having three girls!!! But #2 was a boy so we haven't pursued it. I still would but, at least for now, my husband isn't feeling it.
Personally, I just don't understand people have 4, 5, 6 kids - nobody's genes are that great! There are so many babies that need families. I feel like it was pretty selfish to have the two I had.
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It's good that you want to adopt rather than contribute to the overpopulation of the planet. Also, you can give some kid from the third world a nice life here in the States. :)
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YA, IMMA get me one of those yellow babies from China.
THEY ARE SO CUTE!!
Plus ill make her take piano lessons from age 4 and do SAT and MCAT prep from age 10.
My baby Cung Lee is going to Stanford fo shizzee.
Seriously I think Asian babies are SOOOOO cute, I do wanna adopt a little asian girl one day.
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I'm thinking of adopting kids in a few years when I am set and off.
Is anyone here adopted or has anyone here adopted? Know anyone who adopt?
I can afford it but I'm just thinking about the problems that might come with it, what kind of problems?.. Reps! I'm always thrilled to hear of people wanting to adopt. It's how I plan on having my kids, so I've done quite a bit of research into it.
As a young, single male, it wil be more difficult. International adoption is mostly for people that are at least 25 or 30 (depending on the country) and some require that you have been married a certain length of time.
Domestic infant adoption is a better possbility, and often has a long wait time.
Waiting child/foster-to-adopt is another way, and will sometimes be older kids or ones with some challeges.
Honestly, I'd suggest you wait more than just a few years and take plenty of child development/psychology/behavior classes at a college. Working at a counseling agency that helps kids has taught me just HOW much education a good parent needs.
I would suggest adoption.com... there are some excellent forums somewhere... it might be there. I'll get back to you on that.
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9yBXmJ_2NfI
If this doesnt make you smile honestly you are dead on the inside.
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It's good that you want to adopt rather than contribute to the overpopulation of the planet. Also, you can give some kid from the third world a nice life here in the States. :) My thoughts exactly.
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YA, IMMA get me one of those yellow babies from China.
THEY ARE SO CUTE!!
Plus ill make her take piano lessons from age 4 and do SAT and MCAT prep from age 10.
My baby Cung Lee is going to Stanford fo shizzee.
Seriously I think Asian babies are SOOOOO cute, I do wanna adopt a little asian girl one day. Just don't use any of us as a reference on the application after that post.
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I'm thinking of adopting kids in a few years when I am set and off.
Is anyone here adopted or has anyone here adopted? Know anyone who adopt?
I can afford it but I'm just thinking about the problems that might come with it, what kind of problems?.. Man your 20! Im two years older then you in a career and graduated and I know im years away from even thinking of kids! Live life alittle while your still young.