What the hell is my problem? (serious)
What the hell is my problem? (serious)
I haven't had a serious gf in a couple of YEARS. Ever since my 2nd serious relationship went south, I have abandoned all reason and common sense. I hooked up with a really NICE, smart, pretty girl I went to school with but for some reason decided I could do better and treated her like shit, never oging out with her.
She is now married to a douchebag.
I hooked up with a hot girl who was also very nice, never asked her out treated her like shit. She is now engaged.
I was talking to a smart, good looking accounting major, never asked her out and she eventually started dating someone else.
Hooked up with a girl I'd been friends with, she was hot, very smart, getting her master's degree, I never asked her out. She is now in a serious relationship.
hooked up with other girls I didn't think much of between those, when I should have been dating one of them.
I think I will be single for the rest of my life. all of the girls I know now have BFs or I am not attracted to.
I am tired of hooking up with girls.. I want a GF but I have successfully screwed that up for a couple YEARS now
Dont take things or people for granted...
Dude, if you see signs that the chicks your going for are interested in you... Go ahead and ask. Your a decent looking guy (STRONG no homo).
People are getting there before you, that's all.
I understand where you're coming from. ALOT of us are wired the same way. I myself go through the same cycle. I get tired of the dating/hooking up and try to settle down. Then, I get into an exclusive relationship and I want out after a couple of months, mostly because other women begin to show interest(never cheated) or I get tired of my current girlfriends flaws and quirks.
Yeah noone to blame but my own dumb self. I guess this thread was just a rant. I just need to wake up and start making better decisions.
I seem to function better in a stable relationship. I just feel like there is less I have to worry about, so I can focus on other things.
I'm the same way OP. But I haven't had a serious relationship in about 5 years. I just lose interest in the women I date after a few months. Hell, sometimes after one date I don't want to speak/see them again. Some of it is them, some of it is definitely me. IMO, it just means I haven't met the right one yet. Ya gotta go through alot of weeds before you find your flower (or some cheesy saying like that)
So OP, be patient, keep dating/hooking up and meeting women, and you'll find one.
you gotta pull the trigger and take ownership OP. you notice a smart good looking woman that might have interest, try it out and just say you want to go out sometime and get the digits son.
ya man I'm kinda in your same position. after my last serious gf i havent really made much of an effort to get into another, and its been almost a year. Couple random girls here and there but nothing like what im lookin for. Part of the problem is there arent many girls that ive met that have been gf material... If i find one i will pounce (no cheetah)
same problem here dude. I'll meet a girl and go on a date or two, then I just lose interest...hopefully I'll meet a girl who can keep me interested
Yeah noone to blame but my own dumb self. I guess this thread was just a rant. I just need to wake up and start making better decisions. It's not really your fault...(See post #7) You just really haven't met the right girl yet...When you do you'll make the right decision...
I can't lie though, maybe you will be single for life...Not everyone is guaranteed to find love...It's just how life is...
People get married/stay in relationships for the wrong reasons all the time...They don't want to be lonely or they figure that's the best they'll get...They end up unhappy...
Just keep being yourself and you'll break hearts, get heart broke and possibly even find love...Hey it happens...
You don't ask girls out and by your own admission you treat them like shit (serious). Where does he say he doesn't ask girls out? Sounds like he's been hooking up alot, but it's just not working out...I may be missing something or reading it wrong...
I'll agree it does seem that he treats them like shit :)
Where does he say he doesn't ask girls out? Sounds like he's been hooking up alot, but it's just not working out...I may be missing something or reading it wrong...
I'll agree it does seem that he treats them like shit :) ...
I haven't had a serious gf in a couple of YEARS. Ever since my 2nd serious relationship went south, I have abandoned all reason and common sense. I hooked up with a really NICE, smart, pretty girl I went to school with but for some reason decided I could do better and treated her like shit, never oging out with her.
She is now married to a douchebag.
I hooked up with a hot girl who was also very nice, never asked her out treated her like shit. She is now engaged.
I was talking to a smart, good looking accounting major, never asked her out and she eventually started dating someone else.
Hooked up with a girl I'd been friends with, she was hot, very smart, getting her master's degree, I never asked her out. She is now in a serious relationship.
hooked up with other girls I didn't think much of between those, when I should have been dating one of them.
I think I will be single for the rest of my life. all of the girls I know now have BFs or I am not attracted to.
I am tired of hooking up with girls.. I want a GF but I have successfully screwed that up for a couple YEARS now ...
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LOL @ H0334 Nice point out...Well, LOL @ myself actually...I'm lost :)
How does he hook up with all these girls, but never asks them out...I really don't get it...
Are they asking him out?
How in the hell are they "hooking up"?
I guess my question is what is the difference?
I understand when he was "talking" to one girl, but never asked her out, but how do they hook up without either of them asking eachother out? By accident?
Asking out = Formal type?
Hooking up = Casual/friendly type?
So if I tell a girl "Want to hook up this weekend and maybe go to the movies?" How do I classify that? Did I ask her out or did we just hook up?
LOL @ H0334 Nice point out...Well, LOL @ myself actually...I'm lost :)
How does he hook up with all these girls, but never asks them out...I really don't get it...
Are they asking him out?
How in the hell are they "hooking up"?
I guess my question is what is the difference?
I understand when he was "talking" to one girl, but never asked her out, but how do they hook up without either of them asking eachother out? By accident?
Asking out = Formal type?
Hooking up = Casual/friendly type?
So if I tell a girl "Want to hook up this weekend and maybe go to the movies?" How do I classify that? Did I ask her out or did we just hook up? Your problem simply put is you dont know what you want , or at least didnt and fuked up. Find what you want then take it. Your first story of the nice girl made me sad , because I love nice girls and now she's with a d-bag. Heres a joke that allways make me glad when im sad....................
" Now ive had this on my mind all day and if I dont tell somebody im going to go crazy. It just wont go away, so here it is. You know how they say glue comes from horses..... , but glue is so white and sticky. So im wondering.... who's out there jacking off all those horses ? Everytime I think about this I get flashbacks of elementary school when I used to eat paste. "
Nothing is wrong with you, IMO. I haven't had a gf (serious or non-serious) for 3 years now.. just flings here and there and hookups. I feel the same way though.. It's strange.. I'm just not motivated to pursue girls who I find compatible. Something about it just sounds boring to me. I just hope its a phase that I'll snap out of soon enough, because I'm tired of meeting girls who would be good matches and just... not doing anything about it.
Your problem simply put is you dont know what you want , or at least didnt and fuked up. Find what you want then take it. Your first story of the nice girl made me sad , because I love nice girls and now she's with a d-bag. Heres a joke that allways make me glad when im sad....................
" Now ive had this on my mind all day and if I dont tell somebody im going to go crazy. It just wont go away, so here it is. You know how they say glue comes from horses..... , but glue is so white and sticky. So im wondering.... who's out there jacking off all those horses ? Everytime I think about this I get flashbacks of elementary school when I used to eat paste. " I'm guessing you meant to quote the OP :)
Nothing is wrong with you, IMO. I haven't had a gf (serious or non-serious) for 3 years now.. just flings here and there and hookups. I feel the same way though.. It's strange.. I'm just not motivated to pursue girls who I find compatible. Something about it just sounds boring to me. I just hope its a phase that I'll snap out of soon enough, because I'm tired of meeting girls who would be good matches and just... not doing anything about it. flings are the best...lots of freedom
You're afraid of commitment.
I'm guessing you meant to quote the OP :) Woops , lol.
I haven't had a serious gf in a couple of YEARS. Ever since my 2nd serious relationship went south, I have abandoned all reason and common sense. I hooked up with a really NICE, smart, pretty girl I went to school with but for some reason decided I could do better and treated her like shit, never oging out with her.
She is now married to a douchebag.
I hooked up with a hot girl who was also very nice, never asked her out treated her like shit. She is now engaged.
I was talking to a smart, good looking accounting major, never asked her out and she eventually started dating someone else.
Hooked up with a girl I'd been friends with, she was hot, very smart, getting her master's degree, I never asked her out. She is now in a serious relationship.
hooked up with other girls I didn't think much of between those, when I should have been dating one of them.
I think I will be single for the rest of my life. all of the girls I know now have BFs or I am not attracted to.
I am tired of hooking up with girls.. I want a GF but I have successfully screwed that up for a couple YEARS now
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Dont take things or people for granted...
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Dude, if you see signs that the chicks your going for are interested in you... Go ahead and ask. Your a decent looking guy (STRONG no homo).
People are getting there before you, that's all.
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I understand where you're coming from. ALOT of us are wired the same way. I myself go through the same cycle. I get tired of the dating/hooking up and try to settle down. Then, I get into an exclusive relationship and I want out after a couple of months, mostly because other women begin to show interest(never cheated) or I get tired of my current girlfriends flaws and quirks.
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Yeah noone to blame but my own dumb self. I guess this thread was just a rant. I just need to wake up and start making better decisions.
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I seem to function better in a stable relationship. I just feel like there is less I have to worry about, so I can focus on other things.
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I'm the same way OP. But I haven't had a serious relationship in about 5 years. I just lose interest in the women I date after a few months. Hell, sometimes after one date I don't want to speak/see them again. Some of it is them, some of it is definitely me. IMO, it just means I haven't met the right one yet. Ya gotta go through alot of weeds before you find your flower (or some cheesy saying like that)
So OP, be patient, keep dating/hooking up and meeting women, and you'll find one.
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you gotta pull the trigger and take ownership OP. you notice a smart good looking woman that might have interest, try it out and just say you want to go out sometime and get the digits son.
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ya man I'm kinda in your same position. after my last serious gf i havent really made much of an effort to get into another, and its been almost a year. Couple random girls here and there but nothing like what im lookin for. Part of the problem is there arent many girls that ive met that have been gf material... If i find one i will pounce (no cheetah)
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same problem here dude. I'll meet a girl and go on a date or two, then I just lose interest...hopefully I'll meet a girl who can keep me interested
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Yeah noone to blame but my own dumb self. I guess this thread was just a rant. I just need to wake up and start making better decisions. It's not really your fault...(See post #7) You just really haven't met the right girl yet...When you do you'll make the right decision...
I can't lie though, maybe you will be single for life...Not everyone is guaranteed to find love...It's just how life is...
People get married/stay in relationships for the wrong reasons all the time...They don't want to be lonely or they figure that's the best they'll get...They end up unhappy...
Just keep being yourself and you'll break hearts, get heart broke and possibly even find love...Hey it happens...
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You don't ask girls out and by your own admission you treat them like shit (serious). Where does he say he doesn't ask girls out? Sounds like he's been hooking up alot, but it's just not working out...I may be missing something or reading it wrong...
I'll agree it does seem that he treats them like shit :)
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Where does he say he doesn't ask girls out? Sounds like he's been hooking up alot, but it's just not working out...I may be missing something or reading it wrong...
I'll agree it does seem that he treats them like shit :) ...
I haven't had a serious gf in a couple of YEARS. Ever since my 2nd serious relationship went south, I have abandoned all reason and common sense. I hooked up with a really NICE, smart, pretty girl I went to school with but for some reason decided I could do better and treated her like shit, never oging out with her.
She is now married to a douchebag.
I hooked up with a hot girl who was also very nice, never asked her out treated her like shit. She is now engaged.
I was talking to a smart, good looking accounting major, never asked her out and she eventually started dating someone else.
Hooked up with a girl I'd been friends with, she was hot, very smart, getting her master's degree, I never asked her out. She is now in a serious relationship.
hooked up with other girls I didn't think much of between those, when I should have been dating one of them.
I think I will be single for the rest of my life. all of the girls I know now have BFs or I am not attracted to.
I am tired of hooking up with girls.. I want a GF but I have successfully screwed that up for a couple YEARS now ...
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LOL @ H0334 Nice point out...Well, LOL @ myself actually...I'm lost :)
How does he hook up with all these girls, but never asks them out...I really don't get it...
Are they asking him out?
How in the hell are they "hooking up"?
I guess my question is what is the difference?
I understand when he was "talking" to one girl, but never asked her out, but how do they hook up without either of them asking eachother out? By accident?
Asking out = Formal type?
Hooking up = Casual/friendly type?
So if I tell a girl "Want to hook up this weekend and maybe go to the movies?" How do I classify that? Did I ask her out or did we just hook up?
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LOL @ H0334 Nice point out...Well, LOL @ myself actually...I'm lost :)
How does he hook up with all these girls, but never asks them out...I really don't get it...
Are they asking him out?
How in the hell are they "hooking up"?
I guess my question is what is the difference?
I understand when he was "talking" to one girl, but never asked her out, but how do they hook up without either of them asking eachother out? By accident?
Asking out = Formal type?
Hooking up = Casual/friendly type?
So if I tell a girl "Want to hook up this weekend and maybe go to the movies?" How do I classify that? Did I ask her out or did we just hook up? Your problem simply put is you dont know what you want , or at least didnt and fuked up. Find what you want then take it. Your first story of the nice girl made me sad , because I love nice girls and now she's with a d-bag. Heres a joke that allways make me glad when im sad....................
" Now ive had this on my mind all day and if I dont tell somebody im going to go crazy. It just wont go away, so here it is. You know how they say glue comes from horses..... , but glue is so white and sticky. So im wondering.... who's out there jacking off all those horses ? Everytime I think about this I get flashbacks of elementary school when I used to eat paste. "
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Nothing is wrong with you, IMO. I haven't had a gf (serious or non-serious) for 3 years now.. just flings here and there and hookups. I feel the same way though.. It's strange.. I'm just not motivated to pursue girls who I find compatible. Something about it just sounds boring to me. I just hope its a phase that I'll snap out of soon enough, because I'm tired of meeting girls who would be good matches and just... not doing anything about it.
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Your problem simply put is you dont know what you want , or at least didnt and fuked up. Find what you want then take it. Your first story of the nice girl made me sad , because I love nice girls and now she's with a d-bag. Heres a joke that allways make me glad when im sad....................
" Now ive had this on my mind all day and if I dont tell somebody im going to go crazy. It just wont go away, so here it is. You know how they say glue comes from horses..... , but glue is so white and sticky. So im wondering.... who's out there jacking off all those horses ? Everytime I think about this I get flashbacks of elementary school when I used to eat paste. " I'm guessing you meant to quote the OP :)
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Nothing is wrong with you, IMO. I haven't had a gf (serious or non-serious) for 3 years now.. just flings here and there and hookups. I feel the same way though.. It's strange.. I'm just not motivated to pursue girls who I find compatible. Something about it just sounds boring to me. I just hope its a phase that I'll snap out of soon enough, because I'm tired of meeting girls who would be good matches and just... not doing anything about it. flings are the best...lots of freedom
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You're afraid of commitment.
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I'm guessing you meant to quote the OP :) Woops , lol.