gf can't orgasm, serious advice please
gf can't orgasm, serious advice please
Ok so my gf called me tonight she and her friends had been drinking. Her friend got on the phone and said that my gf had never had an orgasm before and it was my mission to make her have one.
Right away I was thinking what the hell. I've been in 2 relationships before and both my previous girlfriends were able to have orgasms. One could have orgasms both from sex and oral and the other just from oral. When I was with my first girl it took about a month since I was so knew to sex and everything but after then it was fine. With my second girl she was able to climax the first time we had sex.
I've been with this new girl for almost 3 weeks now and we've had sex prolly about 10 times. Granted a few of these I was so drunk and therefore my performance was horrible but we've done it sober.
When I heard this at first I was like damn what the hell is wrong with me but then I realized she's been with 3 other guys before in the past and they all couldn't make her orgasm either. Now I'm starting to wonder if she's one of those rare girls that can't orgasm. Has anyone ever had problems with this before and have any advice? Also any good positions that really lead her to climax well.
Ok so my gf called me tonight she and her friends had been drinking. Her friend got on the phone and said that my gf had never had an orgasm before and it was my mission to make her have one.
Right away I was thinking what the hell. I've been in 2 relationships before and both my previous girlfriends were able to have orgasms. One could have orgasms both from sex and oral and the other just from oral. When I was with my first girl it took about a month since I was so knew to sex and everything but after then it was fine. With my second girl she was able to climax the first time we had sex.
I've been with this new girl for almost 3 weeks now and we've had sex prolly about 10 times. Granted a few of these I was so drunk and therefore my performance was horrible but we've done it sober.
When I heard this at first I was like damn what the hell is wrong with me but then I realized she's been with 3 other guys before in the past and they all couldn't make her orgasm either. Now I'm starting to wonder if she's one of those rare girls that can't orgasm. Has anyone ever had problems with this before and have any advice? Also any good positions that really lead her to climax well. Just dive into the muff. Ya'rly.
be rough...dont hold back at all...it works...in fact thats the only way me and my gf get off is if its rough...borderline painful hair pulling and nail diggind and sh1t like that
Ok so my gf called me tonight she and her friends had been drinking. Her friend got on the phone and said that my gf had never had an orgasm before and it was my mission to make her have one.
Right away I was thinking what the hell. I've been in 2 relationships before and both my previous girlfriends were able to have orgasms. One could have orgasms both from sex and oral and the other just from oral. When I was with my first girl it took about a month since I was so knew to sex and everything but after then it was fine. With my second girl she was able to climax the first time we had sex.
I've been with this new girl for almost 3 weeks now and we've had sex prolly about 10 times. Granted a few of these I was so drunk and therefore my performance was horrible but we've done it sober.
When I heard this at first I was like damn what the hell is wrong with me but then I realized she's been with 3 other guys before in the past and they all couldn't make her orgasm either. Now I'm starting to wonder if she's one of those rare girls that can't orgasm. Has anyone ever had problems with this before and have any advice? Also any good positions that really lead her to climax well. apparently its a trust and emotional issue for some girls for climaxing. they have to be comfortable with their partner. i can't really give you any more details or any advice because the whole concept always makes me go "wtf?"
then again, for me, love and lust are completely separate but equal.
Girls who don't orgasm during sex are not at all rare, actually.
Buy her a vibrator. I recommend the Hitachi Magic Wand.
let me also throw this in. She doesn't masterbate. She's never made herself cum also.
are you kidding me?? HEY!! learn the female anatomy pal it might be helpful. look up the clit (very important) and g-spot (not as important but nice to know about). When your doing her if you have a spare hand start rubbing her clit so she double orgasms. Good luck trooper.
let me also throw this in. She doesn't masterbate. She's never made herself cum also. Definitely buy her a vibrator. But instead of just handing it to her and saying, "Here you go, enjoy!", use it the next time you have sex and see what happens.
are you kidding me?? HEY!! learn the female anatomy pal it might be helpful. look up the clit (very important) and g-spot (not as important but nice to know about). When your doing her if you have a spare hand start rubbing her clit so she double orgasms. Good luck trooper. Haha i used to look up all that stuff when i was 15 so i wouldn't be such a nub when it finally happened. My past 2 gf's were able to orgasm, one told me only through oral and the other told me she could orgasm from sex and oral. This new girl is just so hard i've tried many things.
are you kidding me?? HEY!! learn the female anatomy pal it might be helpful. look up the clit (very important) and g-spot (not as important but nice to know about). When your doing her if you have a spare hand start rubbing her clit so she double orgasms. Good luck trooper. you're 15. i think you should be worried about kissing a girl before you concern yourself with where the clit is :rolleyes:
you're 15. i think you should be worried about kissing a girl before you concern yourself with where the clit is :rolleyes: I disagree entirely. It's never too early to learn where the clit is!
:)
I disagree entirely. It's never too early to learn where the clit is!
:) you know what i meant :p
A few weeks into the relationship is too early to tell. Who knows, you might be able to give it to her, but if she has comfort issues, they will not be resolved at this stage yet.
I disagree entirely. It's never too early to learn where the clit is!
:) Can you show me? lol j/k
Can you show me? lol j/k Not without going to jail. No pedo!
hey man there alot of girls that dont orgasm when they have sex, hell even ive had one! the trick is to make them completely relax, mentally and physically. girls are not like guys. they need to be mentally and physically aroused. take your time with her next time, maybe giving her a massage and then going down on her, slowly with your hands and tongue. pay att to her clit as well as her g spot. dont be tempted to have sex with her just yet. do the forplay, and im sure she will orgasm soon enough. cheers. :)
Not without going to jail. No pedo! I'm legal :D
Edit: AND a Paratrooper.
same with my g/f.. first time she ever got off EVER was sex after a night of drinking(both of us) and she almost passed out.. lmfao.. i didnt finishi so i asked her where she wants me to put it.."ANYWHERE" lol!!:D Now, playing with the G-spot i can get her to cum in less than 5 min.. as long as shes a lil horny... Sex, it depends, sometimes she can, but most of the times she cant..
When I heard this at first I was like damn what the hell is wrong with me but then I realized she's been with 3 other guys before in the past and they all couldn't make her orgasm either. Now I'm starting to wonder if she's one of those rare girls that can't orgasm. Has anyone ever had problems with this before and have any advice? Also any good positions that really lead her to climax well. i do not know how experienced you are, but you could try this, if you haven't already:
presuming you have set the mood correctly (romantic lighting, nice dinner, a little, but not to much, alcohol, etc.) consider about 15+ minutes of "general" foreplay: kissing, stroking the body, licking the neck, breathing int the ear, whispering to her how much you love her and how great she feels, and how horny she makes you. stroke the inside of her thighs, as well as her nipples and general breast area, especially the underside of her breasts. you may also squirm all over her body kissing e.g. her sides, licking from navel to the area between her breasts, slightly biting her buttocks, etc. no real touching of the genital area for now, except for maybe the stray stroke when alternatively stroking her inner thighs.
after about 15 to 20 minutes of this, she should be ready for the next step. get your left arm around her neck so that your left hand can touch her left breast and nipple. rub/stroke the nipple aureola, and breast. use your mouth to alternatively kiss her on the mouth, and kiss/suck on her nipple, using your tongue to flick over the nipple area. possibly use your hand to slighty squeeze her nipple between you fingers, and then flip your tongue over the top of it.
how rough you have to be really depends on the girl, some like it the harder the better, but some really get off when you touch them only very lightly, like the wings of a butterfly. if the girl is mature enough, she should be able to tell you (or you have to interpret her body language) which one she likes more.
with your right hand, now start to very slightly stroke her genital area. now and then use the hand to roam around the body, stroking the inner thighs, belly, or even support the left hand in stroking the breasts and nipples.
touch the clitoral area in a light, fluttery motion with your finger or your thumb (now, some women may prefer a strong, hard touch. if in doubt, ask). note that this may take another 5 to 20 minutes. try various stroke options (thumb, middle finger, sideways, up/down) over the clitoral area to elicit the best response, and then simply continue to to this for some time. one favourite option is to use the thumb to quickly, but lightly stroke the clitoral area (possibly quickly flicking the clit around ever so slightly), while at the same time using the middle or index finger to rub/stroke around the vaginal entrance area in a circular motion (maybe sometimes alternated with a slight piston like motion of the fingers).
also stroke the backside of the vaginal entrance (the dam) but touch the anal area only if you are sure the girl likes it. (note that somewhere around here you may include oral activity as well, but it may not be enough in itself).
to keep the area well lubricated you may either now and then use your hand (or tongue) to rub around large wads of your spittle around the area, or dig your fingers sighly into the vaginal entrance and distribute the wetness sure to be found there by now. or combine both for best results.
now, if she cannot get off on this in about 20 minutues she should still be pretty aroused by now. get on your back and drag her on top of you. she may have to spittle you up first a little to make you slick enough to enter easily. she now either has the option to do you in a more upright position (if she is more prone to G-Spot stimulation) or almost lying down on you, rubbing her clit area on your pubic bone. depending on her position, you can either grab her ass cheeks, or her breasts and nipples to further lead her on.
with all the previous attention and the built-up arousal this may lead to success in your endeavours. you may have to try this a few times until it works, and you hit the timing and technique "just right". furthermore, doing it this way a few times may lead the way for her to eventually achieve orgasm during missionary position as well (focus on grinding your pubic bone into her clitoral area).
THE INTERLOCUTOR
Ok so my gf called me tonight she and her friends had been drinking. Her friend got on the phone and said that my gf had never had an orgasm before and it was my mission to make her have one.
Right away I was thinking what the hell. I've been in 2 relationships before and both my previous girlfriends were able to have orgasms. One could have orgasms both from sex and oral and the other just from oral. When I was with my first girl it took about a month since I was so knew to sex and everything but after then it was fine. With my second girl she was able to climax the first time we had sex.
I've been with this new girl for almost 3 weeks now and we've had sex prolly about 10 times. Granted a few of these I was so drunk and therefore my performance was horrible but we've done it sober.
When I heard this at first I was like damn what the hell is wrong with me but then I realized she's been with 3 other guys before in the past and they all couldn't make her orgasm either. Now I'm starting to wonder if she's one of those rare girls that can't orgasm. Has anyone ever had problems with this before and have any advice? Also any good positions that really lead her to climax well.
Answer:
Ok so my gf called me tonight she and her friends had been drinking. Her friend got on the phone and said that my gf had never had an orgasm before and it was my mission to make her have one.
Right away I was thinking what the hell. I've been in 2 relationships before and both my previous girlfriends were able to have orgasms. One could have orgasms both from sex and oral and the other just from oral. When I was with my first girl it took about a month since I was so knew to sex and everything but after then it was fine. With my second girl she was able to climax the first time we had sex.
I've been with this new girl for almost 3 weeks now and we've had sex prolly about 10 times. Granted a few of these I was so drunk and therefore my performance was horrible but we've done it sober.
When I heard this at first I was like damn what the hell is wrong with me but then I realized she's been with 3 other guys before in the past and they all couldn't make her orgasm either. Now I'm starting to wonder if she's one of those rare girls that can't orgasm. Has anyone ever had problems with this before and have any advice? Also any good positions that really lead her to climax well. Just dive into the muff. Ya'rly.
Answer:
be rough...dont hold back at all...it works...in fact thats the only way me and my gf get off is if its rough...borderline painful hair pulling and nail diggind and sh1t like that
Answer:
Ok so my gf called me tonight she and her friends had been drinking. Her friend got on the phone and said that my gf had never had an orgasm before and it was my mission to make her have one.
Right away I was thinking what the hell. I've been in 2 relationships before and both my previous girlfriends were able to have orgasms. One could have orgasms both from sex and oral and the other just from oral. When I was with my first girl it took about a month since I was so knew to sex and everything but after then it was fine. With my second girl she was able to climax the first time we had sex.
I've been with this new girl for almost 3 weeks now and we've had sex prolly about 10 times. Granted a few of these I was so drunk and therefore my performance was horrible but we've done it sober.
When I heard this at first I was like damn what the hell is wrong with me but then I realized she's been with 3 other guys before in the past and they all couldn't make her orgasm either. Now I'm starting to wonder if she's one of those rare girls that can't orgasm. Has anyone ever had problems with this before and have any advice? Also any good positions that really lead her to climax well. apparently its a trust and emotional issue for some girls for climaxing. they have to be comfortable with their partner. i can't really give you any more details or any advice because the whole concept always makes me go "wtf?"
then again, for me, love and lust are completely separate but equal.
Answer:
Girls who don't orgasm during sex are not at all rare, actually.
Buy her a vibrator. I recommend the Hitachi Magic Wand.
Answer:
let me also throw this in. She doesn't masterbate. She's never made herself cum also.
Answer:
are you kidding me?? HEY!! learn the female anatomy pal it might be helpful. look up the clit (very important) and g-spot (not as important but nice to know about). When your doing her if you have a spare hand start rubbing her clit so she double orgasms. Good luck trooper.
Answer:
let me also throw this in. She doesn't masterbate. She's never made herself cum also. Definitely buy her a vibrator. But instead of just handing it to her and saying, "Here you go, enjoy!", use it the next time you have sex and see what happens.
Answer:
are you kidding me?? HEY!! learn the female anatomy pal it might be helpful. look up the clit (very important) and g-spot (not as important but nice to know about). When your doing her if you have a spare hand start rubbing her clit so she double orgasms. Good luck trooper. Haha i used to look up all that stuff when i was 15 so i wouldn't be such a nub when it finally happened. My past 2 gf's were able to orgasm, one told me only through oral and the other told me she could orgasm from sex and oral. This new girl is just so hard i've tried many things.
Answer:
are you kidding me?? HEY!! learn the female anatomy pal it might be helpful. look up the clit (very important) and g-spot (not as important but nice to know about). When your doing her if you have a spare hand start rubbing her clit so she double orgasms. Good luck trooper. you're 15. i think you should be worried about kissing a girl before you concern yourself with where the clit is :rolleyes:
Answer:
you're 15. i think you should be worried about kissing a girl before you concern yourself with where the clit is :rolleyes: I disagree entirely. It's never too early to learn where the clit is!
:)
Answer:
I disagree entirely. It's never too early to learn where the clit is!
:) you know what i meant :p
Answer:
A few weeks into the relationship is too early to tell. Who knows, you might be able to give it to her, but if she has comfort issues, they will not be resolved at this stage yet.
Answer:
I disagree entirely. It's never too early to learn where the clit is!
:) Can you show me? lol j/k
Answer:
Can you show me? lol j/k Not without going to jail. No pedo!
Answer:
hey man there alot of girls that dont orgasm when they have sex, hell even ive had one! the trick is to make them completely relax, mentally and physically. girls are not like guys. they need to be mentally and physically aroused. take your time with her next time, maybe giving her a massage and then going down on her, slowly with your hands and tongue. pay att to her clit as well as her g spot. dont be tempted to have sex with her just yet. do the forplay, and im sure she will orgasm soon enough. cheers. :)
Answer:
Not without going to jail. No pedo! I'm legal :D
Edit: AND a Paratrooper.
Answer:
same with my g/f.. first time she ever got off EVER was sex after a night of drinking(both of us) and she almost passed out.. lmfao.. i didnt finishi so i asked her where she wants me to put it.."ANYWHERE" lol!!:D Now, playing with the G-spot i can get her to cum in less than 5 min.. as long as shes a lil horny... Sex, it depends, sometimes she can, but most of the times she cant..
Answer:
When I heard this at first I was like damn what the hell is wrong with me but then I realized she's been with 3 other guys before in the past and they all couldn't make her orgasm either. Now I'm starting to wonder if she's one of those rare girls that can't orgasm. Has anyone ever had problems with this before and have any advice? Also any good positions that really lead her to climax well. i do not know how experienced you are, but you could try this, if you haven't already:
presuming you have set the mood correctly (romantic lighting, nice dinner, a little, but not to much, alcohol, etc.) consider about 15+ minutes of "general" foreplay: kissing, stroking the body, licking the neck, breathing int the ear, whispering to her how much you love her and how great she feels, and how horny she makes you. stroke the inside of her thighs, as well as her nipples and general breast area, especially the underside of her breasts. you may also squirm all over her body kissing e.g. her sides, licking from navel to the area between her breasts, slightly biting her buttocks, etc. no real touching of the genital area for now, except for maybe the stray stroke when alternatively stroking her inner thighs.
after about 15 to 20 minutes of this, she should be ready for the next step. get your left arm around her neck so that your left hand can touch her left breast and nipple. rub/stroke the nipple aureola, and breast. use your mouth to alternatively kiss her on the mouth, and kiss/suck on her nipple, using your tongue to flick over the nipple area. possibly use your hand to slighty squeeze her nipple between you fingers, and then flip your tongue over the top of it.
how rough you have to be really depends on the girl, some like it the harder the better, but some really get off when you touch them only very lightly, like the wings of a butterfly. if the girl is mature enough, she should be able to tell you (or you have to interpret her body language) which one she likes more.
with your right hand, now start to very slightly stroke her genital area. now and then use the hand to roam around the body, stroking the inner thighs, belly, or even support the left hand in stroking the breasts and nipples.
touch the clitoral area in a light, fluttery motion with your finger or your thumb (now, some women may prefer a strong, hard touch. if in doubt, ask). note that this may take another 5 to 20 minutes. try various stroke options (thumb, middle finger, sideways, up/down) over the clitoral area to elicit the best response, and then simply continue to to this for some time. one favourite option is to use the thumb to quickly, but lightly stroke the clitoral area (possibly quickly flicking the clit around ever so slightly), while at the same time using the middle or index finger to rub/stroke around the vaginal entrance area in a circular motion (maybe sometimes alternated with a slight piston like motion of the fingers).
also stroke the backside of the vaginal entrance (the dam) but touch the anal area only if you are sure the girl likes it. (note that somewhere around here you may include oral activity as well, but it may not be enough in itself).
to keep the area well lubricated you may either now and then use your hand (or tongue) to rub around large wads of your spittle around the area, or dig your fingers sighly into the vaginal entrance and distribute the wetness sure to be found there by now. or combine both for best results.
now, if she cannot get off on this in about 20 minutues she should still be pretty aroused by now. get on your back and drag her on top of you. she may have to spittle you up first a little to make you slick enough to enter easily. she now either has the option to do you in a more upright position (if she is more prone to G-Spot stimulation) or almost lying down on you, rubbing her clit area on your pubic bone. depending on her position, you can either grab her ass cheeks, or her breasts and nipples to further lead her on.
with all the previous attention and the built-up arousal this may lead to success in your endeavours. you may have to try this a few times until it works, and you hit the timing and technique "just right". furthermore, doing it this way a few times may lead the way for her to eventually achieve orgasm during missionary position as well (focus on grinding your pubic bone into her clitoral area).
THE INTERLOCUTOR