Going off to college and leaving Girlfriend behind (high school)....
Going off to college and leaving Girlfriend behind (high school)....
How much will this affect our relationship..? Any tips as to not letting college life and the girlfriend not interfere with each other?
How much will this affect our relationship..? Any tips as to not letting college life and the girlfriend not interfere with each other? lol
good luck
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good luck haha thanks man..i guess this means itll be hard? i am going to be living 40 minutes away :\
Happened to me this year. If its her senior year and youre not gonna be there shes gonna be with her friends most of the time, and not gonna see you that often, except on the weekends.
I truly wish you the best of luck and hope your shit turns out good. (serious)
do you have a car. Normally I'd say its going to be hell hard, but 40 min is easy. I travel that far each day for work/uni.
also what do u mean not let college life and gf interfere? YOu want to cheat and make sure she doesnt find out or something. If thats the case end it now
do you have a car. Normally I'd say its going to be hell hard, but 40 min is easy. I travel that far each day for work/uni.
also what do u mean not let college life and gf interfere? YOu want to cheat and make sure she doesnt find out or something. If thats the case end it now no not cheat just going out and partying with friends and her being able to trust me or not :\
no not cheat just going out and partying with friends and her being able to trust me or not :\ I see. . make it easy on her by making an effort to see her a couple of times a week and maybe invite her to a few parties with you at the start to show ur going good. If u ditch her entirely for new college friends and parties it'll be hard on the r/ship.
Also be able to be trusted and show her the same trust that you desire..
I see. . make it easy on her by making an effort to see her a couple of times a week and maybe invite her to a few parties with you at the start to show ur going good. If u ditch her entirely for new college friends and parties it'll be hard on the r/ship.
Also be able to be trusted and show her the same trust that you desire.. Damn dude thanks for the advice..repped
You are really not going to like this (and will probably ignore it) but I'm going to say it anyways. Break up with her. No offense, but by your comment in the other thread about wanting a girl that no other guy has touched, I can tell that you aren't very sexually mature. You haven't had a REAL relationship yet, and whether or not you think you are, you have not been in love. High school relationships are good fun and all, but they virtually never work out. You will almost certainly disagree with me here, but trust me, in 4-5 years or so, you are going to realize I'm right. Chalk it up to a learning experience and good times.
Your first year of college changes EVERYTHING. There are so many girls around, so much partying, random hookups, and just overall good fun to be had. You aren't going to have any other period in your life like the first couple years of school. Going away to college puts a ton of strain on a relationship because of trust issues, distance, and you guys just figuring out what you are doing with your life, and eventually either you or she is going to decide to break up. You are going to kick yourself in the ass for wasting this incredible period tied down in a relationship. Either that, or you will cheat on her which is just an a$$hole thing to do.
Yes, this may sound a little hypocritical as I am barely older than you are, but trust me, I know some things. Maybe some of the older folks here will chime in and agree with me.
You are really not going to like this (and will probably ignore it) but I'm going to say it anyways. Break up with her. No offense, but by your comment in the other thread about wanting a girl that no other guy has touched, I can tell that you aren't very sexually mature. You haven't had a REAL relationship yet, and whether or not you think you are, you have not been in love. High school relationships are good fun and all, but they virtually never work out. You will almost certainly disagree with me here, but trust me, in 4-5 years or so, you are going to realize I'm right. Chalk it up to a learning experience and good times.
Your first year of college changes EVERYTHING. There are so many girls around, so much partying, random hookups, and just overall good fun to be had. You aren't going to have any other period in your life like the first couple years of school. Going away to college puts a ton of strain on a relationship because of trust issues, distance, and you guys just figuring out what you are doing with your life, and eventually either you or she is going to decide to break up. You are going to kick yourself in the ass for wasting this incredible period tied down in a relationship. Either that, or you will cheat on her which is just an a$$hole thing to do.
Yes, this may sound a little hypocritical as I am barely older than you are, but trust me, I know some things. Maybe some of the older folks here will chime in and agree with me. I agree.
You are really not going to like this (and will probably ignore it) but I'm going to say it anyways. Break up with her. No offense, but by your comment in the other thread about wanting a girl that no other guy has touched, I can tell that you aren't very sexually mature. You haven't had a REAL relationship yet, and whether or not you think you are, you have not been in love. High school relationships are good fun and all, but they virtually never work out. You will almost certainly disagree with me here, but trust me, in 4-5 years or so, you are going to realize I'm right. Chalk it up to a learning experience and good times.
Your first year of college changes EVERYTHING. There are so many girls around, so much partying, random hookups, and just overall good fun to be had. You aren't going to have any other period in your life like the first couple years of school. Going away to college puts a ton of strain on a relationship because of trust issues, distance, and you guys just figuring out what you are doing with your life, and eventually either you or she is going to decide to break up. You are going to kick yourself in the ass for wasting this incredible period tied down in a relationship. Either that, or you will cheat on her which is just an a$$hole thing to do.
Yes, this may sound a little hypocritical as I am barely older than you are, but trust me, I know some things. Maybe some of the older folks here will chime in and agree with me. damn dude i didnt see that side of things but i've been going out with this girl for nearly three years now..:\ long ass time to just break over because i am moving out kinda seems selfish on my part..maybe if i give it time first couple of weeks or something like that see how she reacts to it and maybe have a mutual agreement on things..
damn dude i didnt see that side of things but i've been going out with this girl for nearly three years now..:\ long ass time to just break over because i am moving out kinda seems selfish on my part..maybe if i give it time first couple of weeks or something like that see how she reacts to it and maybe have a mutual agreement on things.. do that.
dont throw away three yrs. Its clear u like this girl, and a girl u can spend three yrs with doesnt come along every day.
damn dude i didnt see that side of things but i've been going out with this girl for nearly three years now..:\ long ass time to just break over because i am moving out kinda seems selfish on my part..maybe if i give it time first couple of weeks or something like that see how she reacts to it and maybe have a mutual agreement on things.. that's probably a reasonable idea - give yourself a bit of time to figure out what college is about. im just trying to give you the heads-up that i wish i had myself a few years ago. i know its really hard to break up with someone. i stayed in a relationship for over a year that i was not happy with. i just had no good reason to break up with her, and could never bring myself to do it. like you said, it does seem pretty selfish, but its really something that had to be done. instead of doing the right thing and breaking up with her, i continued on with it and just made myself unhappy for a while. sure it would have been hard at first, but we both would have gotten over it, and got out to explore new things and been happier in the end.
either way, best of luck to you.
that's probably a reasonable idea - give yourself a bit of time to figure out what college is about. im just trying to give you the heads-up that i wish i had myself a few years ago. i know its really hard to break up with someone. i stayed in a relationship for over a year that i was not happy with. i just had no good reason to break up with her, and could never bring myself to do it. like you said, it does seem pretty selfish, but its really something that had to be done. instead of doing the right thing and breaking up with her, i continued on with it and just made myself unhappy for a while. sure it would have been hard at first, but we both would have gotten over it, and got out to explore new things and been happier in the end.
either way, best of luck to you. thanks once again and repped for saying it how it is..ill see what the next couple of weeks bring me and hopefully its something positive if not then just goin to tell her how it is
that's probably a reasonable idea - give yourself a bit of time to figure out what college is about. im just trying to give you the heads-up that i wish i had myself a few years ago. i know its really hard to break up with someone. i stayed in a relationship for over a year that i was not happy with. i just had no good reason to break up with her, and could never bring myself to do it. like you said, it does seem pretty selfish, but its really something that had to be done. instead of doing the right thing and breaking up with her, i continued on with it and just made myself unhappy for a while. sure it would have been hard at first, but we both would have gotten over it, and got out to explore new things and been happier in the end.
either way, best of luck to you. x2 out of all my close friends, only 1 is still with their significant other from high school, and shes had some serious problems....good luck
I successfully did it. It all depends on how much you want it to work. We did a year apart, then the next year she came to the same college. She was the best woman ever.
I was gonna say dump her, but if you really feel for this girl (and the feelings are mutual, of course) and it's been going on for 3 years, work on it, high school relationship or not.
Completely depends on the relationship. Me and my last gf couldnt make it work going into different colleges. I could have made it work easily, it isnt hard, but she wanted other things. Two of my best friends have been dating for almost 5 years now, he goes to school in DC and she goes to school in wisconsin and they havent had any problems at all. While me and my gf were not even 2 hours apart. I would definitely try to make things work (havent read the whole thread so I'm not sure if you mentioned this) and if they dont work out, then split and enjoy the college life. If you are committed and she is also, then it shouldnt be hard.
Easy solution.
Dump her. Have fun in college.
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ya i got the same thing goin on. (even the distance is the same lol)
but were gonna try it out for a while too and if it blows then we'll call it quits
Judging from the little we've talked, you guys sound like you're right for each other. But also, it depends on what you guys both want too. If you want a serious relationship (which it seems like you do) and culture plays a significant role in who you want to be with, then by all means I'd do whatever it took to stay with her.
If you guys have been going out 3 years, chances are you're both mature and can trust one another. Regardless, make every effort to see each other at least once or twice a week, but make sure it isn't you going home every weekend or you won't get that full college experience either. Have her come visit you, and like some other people said, take her to parties with you sometime and try not to fall for any temptation.
How much will this affect our relationship..? Any tips as to not letting college life and the girlfriend not interfere with each other?
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How much will this affect our relationship..? Any tips as to not letting college life and the girlfriend not interfere with each other? lol
good luck
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lol
good luck haha thanks man..i guess this means itll be hard? i am going to be living 40 minutes away :\
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Happened to me this year. If its her senior year and youre not gonna be there shes gonna be with her friends most of the time, and not gonna see you that often, except on the weekends.
I truly wish you the best of luck and hope your shit turns out good. (serious)
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do you have a car. Normally I'd say its going to be hell hard, but 40 min is easy. I travel that far each day for work/uni.
also what do u mean not let college life and gf interfere? YOu want to cheat and make sure she doesnt find out or something. If thats the case end it now
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do you have a car. Normally I'd say its going to be hell hard, but 40 min is easy. I travel that far each day for work/uni.
also what do u mean not let college life and gf interfere? YOu want to cheat and make sure she doesnt find out or something. If thats the case end it now no not cheat just going out and partying with friends and her being able to trust me or not :\
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no not cheat just going out and partying with friends and her being able to trust me or not :\ I see. . make it easy on her by making an effort to see her a couple of times a week and maybe invite her to a few parties with you at the start to show ur going good. If u ditch her entirely for new college friends and parties it'll be hard on the r/ship.
Also be able to be trusted and show her the same trust that you desire..
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I see. . make it easy on her by making an effort to see her a couple of times a week and maybe invite her to a few parties with you at the start to show ur going good. If u ditch her entirely for new college friends and parties it'll be hard on the r/ship.
Also be able to be trusted and show her the same trust that you desire.. Damn dude thanks for the advice..repped
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You are really not going to like this (and will probably ignore it) but I'm going to say it anyways. Break up with her. No offense, but by your comment in the other thread about wanting a girl that no other guy has touched, I can tell that you aren't very sexually mature. You haven't had a REAL relationship yet, and whether or not you think you are, you have not been in love. High school relationships are good fun and all, but they virtually never work out. You will almost certainly disagree with me here, but trust me, in 4-5 years or so, you are going to realize I'm right. Chalk it up to a learning experience and good times.
Your first year of college changes EVERYTHING. There are so many girls around, so much partying, random hookups, and just overall good fun to be had. You aren't going to have any other period in your life like the first couple years of school. Going away to college puts a ton of strain on a relationship because of trust issues, distance, and you guys just figuring out what you are doing with your life, and eventually either you or she is going to decide to break up. You are going to kick yourself in the ass for wasting this incredible period tied down in a relationship. Either that, or you will cheat on her which is just an a$$hole thing to do.
Yes, this may sound a little hypocritical as I am barely older than you are, but trust me, I know some things. Maybe some of the older folks here will chime in and agree with me.
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You are really not going to like this (and will probably ignore it) but I'm going to say it anyways. Break up with her. No offense, but by your comment in the other thread about wanting a girl that no other guy has touched, I can tell that you aren't very sexually mature. You haven't had a REAL relationship yet, and whether or not you think you are, you have not been in love. High school relationships are good fun and all, but they virtually never work out. You will almost certainly disagree with me here, but trust me, in 4-5 years or so, you are going to realize I'm right. Chalk it up to a learning experience and good times.
Your first year of college changes EVERYTHING. There are so many girls around, so much partying, random hookups, and just overall good fun to be had. You aren't going to have any other period in your life like the first couple years of school. Going away to college puts a ton of strain on a relationship because of trust issues, distance, and you guys just figuring out what you are doing with your life, and eventually either you or she is going to decide to break up. You are going to kick yourself in the ass for wasting this incredible period tied down in a relationship. Either that, or you will cheat on her which is just an a$$hole thing to do.
Yes, this may sound a little hypocritical as I am barely older than you are, but trust me, I know some things. Maybe some of the older folks here will chime in and agree with me. I agree.
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You are really not going to like this (and will probably ignore it) but I'm going to say it anyways. Break up with her. No offense, but by your comment in the other thread about wanting a girl that no other guy has touched, I can tell that you aren't very sexually mature. You haven't had a REAL relationship yet, and whether or not you think you are, you have not been in love. High school relationships are good fun and all, but they virtually never work out. You will almost certainly disagree with me here, but trust me, in 4-5 years or so, you are going to realize I'm right. Chalk it up to a learning experience and good times.
Your first year of college changes EVERYTHING. There are so many girls around, so much partying, random hookups, and just overall good fun to be had. You aren't going to have any other period in your life like the first couple years of school. Going away to college puts a ton of strain on a relationship because of trust issues, distance, and you guys just figuring out what you are doing with your life, and eventually either you or she is going to decide to break up. You are going to kick yourself in the ass for wasting this incredible period tied down in a relationship. Either that, or you will cheat on her which is just an a$$hole thing to do.
Yes, this may sound a little hypocritical as I am barely older than you are, but trust me, I know some things. Maybe some of the older folks here will chime in and agree with me. damn dude i didnt see that side of things but i've been going out with this girl for nearly three years now..:\ long ass time to just break over because i am moving out kinda seems selfish on my part..maybe if i give it time first couple of weeks or something like that see how she reacts to it and maybe have a mutual agreement on things..
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damn dude i didnt see that side of things but i've been going out with this girl for nearly three years now..:\ long ass time to just break over because i am moving out kinda seems selfish on my part..maybe if i give it time first couple of weeks or something like that see how she reacts to it and maybe have a mutual agreement on things.. do that.
dont throw away three yrs. Its clear u like this girl, and a girl u can spend three yrs with doesnt come along every day.
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damn dude i didnt see that side of things but i've been going out with this girl for nearly three years now..:\ long ass time to just break over because i am moving out kinda seems selfish on my part..maybe if i give it time first couple of weeks or something like that see how she reacts to it and maybe have a mutual agreement on things.. that's probably a reasonable idea - give yourself a bit of time to figure out what college is about. im just trying to give you the heads-up that i wish i had myself a few years ago. i know its really hard to break up with someone. i stayed in a relationship for over a year that i was not happy with. i just had no good reason to break up with her, and could never bring myself to do it. like you said, it does seem pretty selfish, but its really something that had to be done. instead of doing the right thing and breaking up with her, i continued on with it and just made myself unhappy for a while. sure it would have been hard at first, but we both would have gotten over it, and got out to explore new things and been happier in the end.
either way, best of luck to you.
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that's probably a reasonable idea - give yourself a bit of time to figure out what college is about. im just trying to give you the heads-up that i wish i had myself a few years ago. i know its really hard to break up with someone. i stayed in a relationship for over a year that i was not happy with. i just had no good reason to break up with her, and could never bring myself to do it. like you said, it does seem pretty selfish, but its really something that had to be done. instead of doing the right thing and breaking up with her, i continued on with it and just made myself unhappy for a while. sure it would have been hard at first, but we both would have gotten over it, and got out to explore new things and been happier in the end.
either way, best of luck to you. thanks once again and repped for saying it how it is..ill see what the next couple of weeks bring me and hopefully its something positive if not then just goin to tell her how it is
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that's probably a reasonable idea - give yourself a bit of time to figure out what college is about. im just trying to give you the heads-up that i wish i had myself a few years ago. i know its really hard to break up with someone. i stayed in a relationship for over a year that i was not happy with. i just had no good reason to break up with her, and could never bring myself to do it. like you said, it does seem pretty selfish, but its really something that had to be done. instead of doing the right thing and breaking up with her, i continued on with it and just made myself unhappy for a while. sure it would have been hard at first, but we both would have gotten over it, and got out to explore new things and been happier in the end.
either way, best of luck to you. x2 out of all my close friends, only 1 is still with their significant other from high school, and shes had some serious problems....good luck
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I successfully did it. It all depends on how much you want it to work. We did a year apart, then the next year she came to the same college. She was the best woman ever.
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I was gonna say dump her, but if you really feel for this girl (and the feelings are mutual, of course) and it's been going on for 3 years, work on it, high school relationship or not.
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Completely depends on the relationship. Me and my last gf couldnt make it work going into different colleges. I could have made it work easily, it isnt hard, but she wanted other things. Two of my best friends have been dating for almost 5 years now, he goes to school in DC and she goes to school in wisconsin and they havent had any problems at all. While me and my gf were not even 2 hours apart. I would definitely try to make things work (havent read the whole thread so I'm not sure if you mentioned this) and if they dont work out, then split and enjoy the college life. If you are committed and she is also, then it shouldnt be hard.
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Easy solution.
Dump her. Have fun in college.
/thread
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ya i got the same thing goin on. (even the distance is the same lol)
but were gonna try it out for a while too and if it blows then we'll call it quits
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Judging from the little we've talked, you guys sound like you're right for each other. But also, it depends on what you guys both want too. If you want a serious relationship (which it seems like you do) and culture plays a significant role in who you want to be with, then by all means I'd do whatever it took to stay with her.
If you guys have been going out 3 years, chances are you're both mature and can trust one another. Regardless, make every effort to see each other at least once or twice a week, but make sure it isn't you going home every weekend or you won't get that full college experience either. Have her come visit you, and like some other people said, take her to parties with you sometime and try not to fall for any temptation.