really o/t would you let other people stay in your house...
really o/t would you let other people stay in your house...
...if you were away?
Some friends of Mr PB's are coming back from travelling around the time we're going on holiday and might be looking for a place to stay whilst they get settled. In some ways I feel they might be expecting it and I don't really know what to say as I'm not sure I'm comfortable with it but I don't want to appear mean! :eek:
we only have a one-bed flat so it's not as if we have a spare room they could stay in - they'd have to go in ours with all our stuff.
they both smoke but we don't and don't let people smoke in the house. the other thing that bothers me is that the girl has what I can only describe as a pretty 'communal' approach to other people's possessions - he knows as he lived with her. i.e. she wouldn't think of anything of just borrowing whatever clothes etc she took a fancy to...
help...
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Hi there,
maybe you could take anything precious or your fav items and pack them away maybe store them in your mums or a friends house...
it is hard to turn ppl away without being mean..i know where your coming from if i didn't really know somebody too well that was gonna be staying in my house I'd be pretty wary too...it would prob work out though...maybe you ask them to contribute something to the rent for the lenth of time theyr'e staying..
well good luck with it
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that's such a tricky position to be in. What does your OH think about it. Unless you lock all your valuables in a cupboard - the smoking thing would really bother me too- could you tell your oh that you wouldn't really be able to relax on hols if they were there?
I think that ground rules would have to be set beforehand to avoid any possible conflict. I lived in a house in Oz with a girl who had a communal approach to possessions and she ended up stretching my clamdiggers with her fat ass and ate my chocolate without asking and thought it was perfectly acceptable. Even now 8 years later it still annoys me and I wish I'd said something to her rather than let her "get away" with it. :mad:
good luck
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If I wasn't there and didn't know the people involved well, I would definitely not be happy. I'd let my family or very close and trusted friends stay because I'd trust them to look after things and behave responsibly, but no one else. I don't see that it's mean to refuse to let people you don't know well to stay in your house either - why should you? The smoking would be reason enough in any case, for me.
So no, I wouldn't let them, and I wouldn't feel guilty about it either.
g_k
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I lived in a house in Oz with a girl who had a communal approach to possessions and she ended up stretching my clamdiggers with her fat ass and ate my chocolate without asking and thought it was perfectly acceptable. Even now 8 years later it still annoys me and I wish I'd said something to her rather than let her "get away" with it. :mad:
good luck
Oh no!!!!!!!!!!!!!:lol: that's shocking!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I think I'm quite protective over my personal space (and possibly a bit anal ;) ) so, as bridcr says, I just woudln't be able to relax.
will take some diplomacy though...
...if you were away?
Some friends of Mr PB's are coming back from travelling around the time we're going on holiday and might be looking for a place to stay whilst they get settled. In some ways I feel they might be expecting it and I don't really know what to say as I'm not sure I'm comfortable with it but I don't want to appear mean! :eek:
we only have a one-bed flat so it's not as if we have a spare room they could stay in - they'd have to go in ours with all our stuff.
they both smoke but we don't and don't let people smoke in the house. the other thing that bothers me is that the girl has what I can only describe as a pretty 'communal' approach to other people's possessions - he knows as he lived with her. i.e. she wouldn't think of anything of just borrowing whatever clothes etc she took a fancy to...
help...
Answers:
Hi there,
maybe you could take anything precious or your fav items and pack them away maybe store them in your mums or a friends house...
it is hard to turn ppl away without being mean..i know where your coming from if i didn't really know somebody too well that was gonna be staying in my house I'd be pretty wary too...it would prob work out though...maybe you ask them to contribute something to the rent for the lenth of time theyr'e staying..
well good luck with it
Answers:
that's such a tricky position to be in. What does your OH think about it. Unless you lock all your valuables in a cupboard - the smoking thing would really bother me too- could you tell your oh that you wouldn't really be able to relax on hols if they were there?
I think that ground rules would have to be set beforehand to avoid any possible conflict. I lived in a house in Oz with a girl who had a communal approach to possessions and she ended up stretching my clamdiggers with her fat ass and ate my chocolate without asking and thought it was perfectly acceptable. Even now 8 years later it still annoys me and I wish I'd said something to her rather than let her "get away" with it. :mad:
good luck
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If I wasn't there and didn't know the people involved well, I would definitely not be happy. I'd let my family or very close and trusted friends stay because I'd trust them to look after things and behave responsibly, but no one else. I don't see that it's mean to refuse to let people you don't know well to stay in your house either - why should you? The smoking would be reason enough in any case, for me.
So no, I wouldn't let them, and I wouldn't feel guilty about it either.
g_k
Answers:
I lived in a house in Oz with a girl who had a communal approach to possessions and she ended up stretching my clamdiggers with her fat ass and ate my chocolate without asking and thought it was perfectly acceptable. Even now 8 years later it still annoys me and I wish I'd said something to her rather than let her "get away" with it. :mad:
good luck
Oh no!!!!!!!!!!!!!:lol: that's shocking!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I think I'm quite protective over my personal space (and possibly a bit anal ;) ) so, as bridcr says, I just woudln't be able to relax.
will take some diplomacy though...