Eeurgh! Hen Night help needed!
Eeurgh! Hen Night help needed!
Slightly O/T but I need help (in many ways :head: )
Carrying on from the thread last week about dressing up for birthdays, hen nights etc, I am reluctantly out on a hen night next month. Mr Shiny is best man at the wedding and the B2B is really sweet so I can't not go.
I have managed to dissuade B2B from making us all dress up in full on outfits and she agreed to go down the matching accessories route. Not my cup of tea but I am a big girl and can grin and bear it.
Her sister has been put in charge of the arrangements and has just emailed me to say that she is buying us all pink cowboy hats (*still grinning and bearing it*) and pink sashes.
She wants to get the sashes printed with "****'s (name of B2B) biatches" :head: :rolleyes: :sick: :faint:
She has asked for my opinion and I am truly lost for words. Tact and diplomacy have deserted me and I can't think of a suitable response.
I know that I am probably being old and miserable and have no sense of fun :o but there is no way I am being anybody's biatch.
Any tactful suggestions for alternative wording?
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Oh my gah!
Its my hen night next month too but I would be mortified if my sister got things like that made for me. I suppose you have to be honest but think of whether the B2B would like it or find it funny. If you don't think its her cup of tea then say so.
I think the cowboy hats are a bit of fun though, we had them for my friends hen. It kind of ensures that if there are people you don't know in the group then at least they will know you are part of the hen night and can chat to you IYSWIM.
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Well done on grinning and bearing it! On my hen-do I set a strict rule that there was no dressing up, no stupid games, no veils or L-plates, no strippers - covered every possible tacky eventuality and was spared the embarrassment factor (yes, I'm a grouch).
You could suggest changing the wording to "B2B's babes" (assuming her name begins with a B - if it doesn't you need a word that starts with the same letter IMHO ;))
Good luck - remember you can always "lose" your hat early on, and those sashes break at the slightest pull ;)
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ETA - justification for the name change is that "Babe" sounds cute and girly, whereas "biatch" could give people the wrong impression of your group, and you may not get into the nicer pubs/clubs if the bouncers assume you are hardcore troublemakers.
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Hmmm, well if it was me I'd Email her and say can't we just stick with the hats. Good luck with sorting it out.
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I feel exactly the same way as you about these hen things, but thankfully all my friends who've got married so far have felt the same way. If you think there is even the slightest chance that the bride won't like it, then I would use that as a reason.
Also agree with RockTart's suggestion of changing it to something less offensive. You could even say that you would worry about some places not letting you in with this written on - this is highly unlikely but tell her you wouldn't want to risk the night being spoilt by it.
Good luck!
Slightly O/T but I need help (in many ways :head: )
Carrying on from the thread last week about dressing up for birthdays, hen nights etc, I am reluctantly out on a hen night next month. Mr Shiny is best man at the wedding and the B2B is really sweet so I can't not go.
I have managed to dissuade B2B from making us all dress up in full on outfits and she agreed to go down the matching accessories route. Not my cup of tea but I am a big girl and can grin and bear it.
Her sister has been put in charge of the arrangements and has just emailed me to say that she is buying us all pink cowboy hats (*still grinning and bearing it*) and pink sashes.
She wants to get the sashes printed with "****'s (name of B2B) biatches" :head: :rolleyes: :sick: :faint:
She has asked for my opinion and I am truly lost for words. Tact and diplomacy have deserted me and I can't think of a suitable response.
I know that I am probably being old and miserable and have no sense of fun :o but there is no way I am being anybody's biatch.
Any tactful suggestions for alternative wording?
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Oh my gah!
Its my hen night next month too but I would be mortified if my sister got things like that made for me. I suppose you have to be honest but think of whether the B2B would like it or find it funny. If you don't think its her cup of tea then say so.
I think the cowboy hats are a bit of fun though, we had them for my friends hen. It kind of ensures that if there are people you don't know in the group then at least they will know you are part of the hen night and can chat to you IYSWIM.
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Well done on grinning and bearing it! On my hen-do I set a strict rule that there was no dressing up, no stupid games, no veils or L-plates, no strippers - covered every possible tacky eventuality and was spared the embarrassment factor (yes, I'm a grouch).
You could suggest changing the wording to "B2B's babes" (assuming her name begins with a B - if it doesn't you need a word that starts with the same letter IMHO ;))
Good luck - remember you can always "lose" your hat early on, and those sashes break at the slightest pull ;)
x
ETA - justification for the name change is that "Babe" sounds cute and girly, whereas "biatch" could give people the wrong impression of your group, and you may not get into the nicer pubs/clubs if the bouncers assume you are hardcore troublemakers.
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Hmmm, well if it was me I'd Email her and say can't we just stick with the hats. Good luck with sorting it out.
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I feel exactly the same way as you about these hen things, but thankfully all my friends who've got married so far have felt the same way. If you think there is even the slightest chance that the bride won't like it, then I would use that as a reason.
Also agree with RockTart's suggestion of changing it to something less offensive. You could even say that you would worry about some places not letting you in with this written on - this is highly unlikely but tell her you wouldn't want to risk the night being spoilt by it.
Good luck!