Grandparents?
My in-laws are visiting us from out of country. They will be staying with us for 7 weeks. DS who is 19mths old has met them for the first time. He plays with them but is giving me a hard time at night. He cries a lot before going to bed and it breaks my heart. During the day he clings to me a lot and its not that i am not giving him attention but i think he feels very insecure. His schedule has not changed in anyway but this is the first time we are having houseguests for such a long time. I dont know what i can do to comfort him and help him adjust. Any suggestion will be higly appreciated.
Thanks!
Answers:
How is the visit going with the in-laws since you last posted? Having house guests for that length of time is noble on your part. I could never cope for more than a week myself.
I can only think that your baby is feeling 'who are these people who have suddenly appeared and aren't going!' Have they presented him with a new toy? Perhaps there is one you know he would like and you could have your in-laws give it to him. Another idea is to leave him with your in-laws while you and your husband go out. This way your son has more one on one bonding time, and you get a much needed break. Hopefully your in-laws are able to do this for you.
Children seem to adjust more easily when they're not torn between their parents, and others they enjoy being with at the same time or presence.
Babies also thrive on routine. Are his meals, playtime & naptime on schedule. It's, above all else, most important for babies to stick to the routine. My kids thrived on them at that age. They need to get a sese of what's coming next!
Hope this helps
I hope this helps. It's an adjustment for everyone.
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DS has had fever for last 2 days. We took him to his ped and there is no infection. The ped said that it maybe be adjustment problem for him or just viral. He has never had fever in the past He is much better though. The ped also suggested to give a favourite toy to in-laws who can give it to him.
Today is the first time at night after a week that he did not cry before going to bed. My husband talked in detail with his parents and explained to them what DS likes and how he likes to play. They have been following that and DS seems more comfortable now. I do let my in-laws spend alone time with DS with me being though in the house but not in front of him. Also, I feel that whn DH is at work DS is much more comfortable with my in-laws. We have not changed his routine in anyway. I think its been too overwheming for him with so much attention going towards him.
Thanks for replying!
Thanks!
Answers:
How is the visit going with the in-laws since you last posted? Having house guests for that length of time is noble on your part. I could never cope for more than a week myself.
I can only think that your baby is feeling 'who are these people who have suddenly appeared and aren't going!' Have they presented him with a new toy? Perhaps there is one you know he would like and you could have your in-laws give it to him. Another idea is to leave him with your in-laws while you and your husband go out. This way your son has more one on one bonding time, and you get a much needed break. Hopefully your in-laws are able to do this for you.
Children seem to adjust more easily when they're not torn between their parents, and others they enjoy being with at the same time or presence.
Babies also thrive on routine. Are his meals, playtime & naptime on schedule. It's, above all else, most important for babies to stick to the routine. My kids thrived on them at that age. They need to get a sese of what's coming next!
Hope this helps
I hope this helps. It's an adjustment for everyone.
Answers:
DS has had fever for last 2 days. We took him to his ped and there is no infection. The ped said that it maybe be adjustment problem for him or just viral. He has never had fever in the past He is much better though. The ped also suggested to give a favourite toy to in-laws who can give it to him.
Today is the first time at night after a week that he did not cry before going to bed. My husband talked in detail with his parents and explained to them what DS likes and how he likes to play. They have been following that and DS seems more comfortable now. I do let my in-laws spend alone time with DS with me being though in the house but not in front of him. Also, I feel that whn DH is at work DS is much more comfortable with my in-laws. We have not changed his routine in anyway. I think its been too overwheming for him with so much attention going towards him.
Thanks for replying!