6 Year Old Driving Everyone Crazy!! HELP!!!!
Hi,
I have a 6 year old son that is driving everyone he comes in contact with crazy.
My son is the 3rd out of 4 boys...Their ages are 14, 9,6,2
His behavior issues started when he was a baby....He would climb out of his crib when he was 12 months old and never stay there. He would pick at people and pester them until he got attention.
He is a perfect little gentleman when he is at home alone. When ever we go anyplace he has to touch anything and everything in sight. He hides in clothes racks, he opens food products on the shelves, he feels the need to touch everyone that walks by. I have to keep a constant eye on him to make sure he is not doing anything wrong.
When people come over he is a pest. He has to hug them, touch them kiss them, jump on them, bounce on them, etc. I pull him off and turn around and he is back on them.
He is banned from our neighbor's yard because he kept walking into their house and garage.
He punched out his brother's loose baby tooth goofing around at a store.
He punched his brother in the nose and made it bleed at a different store.
He has no concept of what will hurt someone and he never thinks before he does anything.
He just started K5 and then the saga continued.
The first week he was sick and they had him go to the office to wait for me to pick him up. He decided he needed to wait for me outside by the road without any adults knowing where he was.
The next week he had a note sent home for pushing another boy. This was not pushing in a mean way he was goofing around and had to push him thinking it was funny.
Then he had a note sent home saying he threw a pine cone out of the school bus window and hit a teacher.
Then we kicked into high gear the 3rd week.
This began with...
#1. Kissing other children
#2. Not throwing a cup away when told to do so 3 times.
#3. Wiping glue onto someone elses art project.
#4. Leaving class and walking in the hall and the principal had to walk him back to class.
The last one he said he did because he wanted to find his older brother because none of his family was there and he was feeling alone.
Day two of the 3rd week was putting paper towels in the urinal in the bathroom.
We have a rewards system set up that if we dont have a note sent home he gets certain things at different stages depending on how many days in a row he can go without a note coming home.
We discussed this as I was dropping him off at school and not even 10 seconds later he was hugging a girl that did not want to be touched.
We don't know what to do any more. We are grasping at anything to help him. Yesterday we started giving him Fish oil capulets with omega 3 only Because I read that it helps with ADD and I dont even know if that is what he has...
We don't even know why he does the things he does to know if the Fish oil will help. I don't even know who to contact to get him help. I just know that with the path that he is on now he not have any frineds, teachers will hate him, and he will live a lonely miserable life.
So I don't know if anyone else went through these things or if anyone has any suggestions on what will help. My husband wants to send him to bording school....I am exhaused and live for bed times.
Thanks
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I have to laugh because I just taught a class and I swear I had this little boy. I personally favored him because I understood his curiosity, he get bored easily and he's realized that there are soooo many things out there to do. A doctor will label him with ADD or ADHD. My sister in law goes the healthy way and says that some kids have a allergic reaction from sugar and milk. She did the experiement and took them off of sugar and milk and I think breads do you know they actually became sick!! Then after two weeks she was told to put a drop, only one small drop of milk under her childs tongue and her temperture sky rocketed. If you want to do it a healthy way you can search the web for homeopathic remedies for ADD or ADHD. It's worth a try. There are lots of things to try.....maybe find a extra curricular activity such as baseball where he is a team member and can touch the balls and bats and run. Maybe something science since he likes to see the reactions of things. The child I taught liked to hug me alot too and I mean ALOT. I had to tell him that it was enough and I knew he was a sweet and good boy but he could not hug me all the time.
I don't think teachers will hate him if you explain his situation and if they are a good teacher they will have their ways of dealing with him. I do NOT agree with a boarding school, what message will this send to your child? It sounds as if he's reaching out for attention..don't smother it....just find a place for it. If he likes to hug have him go to a nursing home on a certain day and talk with the older people and let him hug away. Take him places so he can learn different experiements. Go to the library and buy a science book. If he doesn't want to stand next to you at a store then buy a hand leash and put him to the buggy...he will HATE it so he will learn to stand and not wander. My son went outside his school yesturday and stood outside the doors to wait for me without an adult too. They think they are big boys and can do this stuff. You son sounds perfectly normal, maybe a bit hyper but you just have to find a place for him to put it. My kids are not like your son but I am exhausted at bedtime too. That's what we get for having more then one child. hahaha Keep posting sweetie. Love that baby, it's your job to find his outlet. Search the web and ask parents of children with ADD or ADHD.
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Hi There, It is hard to say if he is doing all these things for attention, even if it does give him negative attention, in a childs eyes it is still attention. So by sending him to a boarding school that could be very devestating to him IF he thinks he is not getting enough attention now.
I know exactly what you are going through! My Sister-in- law (she was my best friend) died very unexpectedly last year. At the time her children were 4,7 and 3 months. I ended up raising the 4 (boy) and 7 (girl) year olds. The 4 year old has had major behavior issues since he was just big enough to get around, like your boy. So even though his mother passed away we couldnt even use her death as a reason for his behavior. I had NEVER seen a child with such horrible behavior issues as his, and i have 5 children of my own with my oldest boy having ADHD. I thought i had it rough raising my boy, but this 4 year old proved to me that raising my boy was a piece of cake.
This 4 year old also has a problem keeping his hands to himself!!!!!!
He total invades EVERYONES personal space, always touching people even after they clearly tell him to keep his hands to himself. There is absolutely NO DICIPLINE that works with this child as he is a repeat offender. He would do something bad and i could get down on his level and talk to him and explain to him why he wasnt allowed to do certain things as well as tell him the consequences if he does it again, he will acknowledge it and then walk away and go right directly and do the same thing again!
It doesnt matter what he does wrong, if you ask him why he did it he will say
"because i wanted to"! He turned 5 last March and nothing has changed. He has to wear a pull up to bed as well as he will often pee his pants and sometimes poop his pants during the day. Most of the time when he goes in his pants it is him being spiteful, as he will stand in front of the bathroom door and go in his pants!
The terrible things that this child does is just to many to list, but i am sure you can imagine. He went to live with his biological father in July, I love this child but that was the happiest day of my life!!!!!!!!!!! While i had him he attended a special needs preschool, this teacher has dealt with many children with behavior issues throughout the years, even she had no idea what to do with him, as nothing gets through to him! His teacher even told me that she was scared to think what is going to happen to this child and where he will be when he is a teenager.
Now that he is with his father he has gotten even worse, as his father does not and will not dicipline him!
My suggestion to you would be to call your local Human Services Agency and see what type of programs they may have available for him to attend. They would probably even set him up with some counceling. In the mean time i would talk to your pediatrician and have them make a referral for your child to be evaluated to see if he fits a criteria for a diagnosis.
Sorry if i wasnt much help, but i also wanted you to know that you are not alone and that there are many children out there who struggle with their behavior!
Good Luck,
ValleyGurl
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I think counseling is in order. I know a 5-year old who's getting counseling for some of this same behavior -mostly she has a problem recognizing boundaries - where another person's space begins and her's ends. She's always very physical, just like your boy.
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I think counseling is in order. -mostly she has a problem recognizing boundaries - where another person's space begins and her's ends. She's always very physical, just like your boy. What kind of counseling? From where?
Thanks everyone for your help!!!
I have a 6 year old son that is driving everyone he comes in contact with crazy.
My son is the 3rd out of 4 boys...Their ages are 14, 9,6,2
His behavior issues started when he was a baby....He would climb out of his crib when he was 12 months old and never stay there. He would pick at people and pester them until he got attention.
He is a perfect little gentleman when he is at home alone. When ever we go anyplace he has to touch anything and everything in sight. He hides in clothes racks, he opens food products on the shelves, he feels the need to touch everyone that walks by. I have to keep a constant eye on him to make sure he is not doing anything wrong.
When people come over he is a pest. He has to hug them, touch them kiss them, jump on them, bounce on them, etc. I pull him off and turn around and he is back on them.
He is banned from our neighbor's yard because he kept walking into their house and garage.
He punched out his brother's loose baby tooth goofing around at a store.
He punched his brother in the nose and made it bleed at a different store.
He has no concept of what will hurt someone and he never thinks before he does anything.
He just started K5 and then the saga continued.
The first week he was sick and they had him go to the office to wait for me to pick him up. He decided he needed to wait for me outside by the road without any adults knowing where he was.
The next week he had a note sent home for pushing another boy. This was not pushing in a mean way he was goofing around and had to push him thinking it was funny.
Then he had a note sent home saying he threw a pine cone out of the school bus window and hit a teacher.
Then we kicked into high gear the 3rd week.
This began with...
#1. Kissing other children
#2. Not throwing a cup away when told to do so 3 times.
#3. Wiping glue onto someone elses art project.
#4. Leaving class and walking in the hall and the principal had to walk him back to class.
The last one he said he did because he wanted to find his older brother because none of his family was there and he was feeling alone.
Day two of the 3rd week was putting paper towels in the urinal in the bathroom.
We have a rewards system set up that if we dont have a note sent home he gets certain things at different stages depending on how many days in a row he can go without a note coming home.
We discussed this as I was dropping him off at school and not even 10 seconds later he was hugging a girl that did not want to be touched.
We don't know what to do any more. We are grasping at anything to help him. Yesterday we started giving him Fish oil capulets with omega 3 only Because I read that it helps with ADD and I dont even know if that is what he has...
We don't even know why he does the things he does to know if the Fish oil will help. I don't even know who to contact to get him help. I just know that with the path that he is on now he not have any frineds, teachers will hate him, and he will live a lonely miserable life.
So I don't know if anyone else went through these things or if anyone has any suggestions on what will help. My husband wants to send him to bording school....I am exhaused and live for bed times.
Thanks
Answers:
I have to laugh because I just taught a class and I swear I had this little boy. I personally favored him because I understood his curiosity, he get bored easily and he's realized that there are soooo many things out there to do. A doctor will label him with ADD or ADHD. My sister in law goes the healthy way and says that some kids have a allergic reaction from sugar and milk. She did the experiement and took them off of sugar and milk and I think breads do you know they actually became sick!! Then after two weeks she was told to put a drop, only one small drop of milk under her childs tongue and her temperture sky rocketed. If you want to do it a healthy way you can search the web for homeopathic remedies for ADD or ADHD. It's worth a try. There are lots of things to try.....maybe find a extra curricular activity such as baseball where he is a team member and can touch the balls and bats and run. Maybe something science since he likes to see the reactions of things. The child I taught liked to hug me alot too and I mean ALOT. I had to tell him that it was enough and I knew he was a sweet and good boy but he could not hug me all the time.
I don't think teachers will hate him if you explain his situation and if they are a good teacher they will have their ways of dealing with him. I do NOT agree with a boarding school, what message will this send to your child? It sounds as if he's reaching out for attention..don't smother it....just find a place for it. If he likes to hug have him go to a nursing home on a certain day and talk with the older people and let him hug away. Take him places so he can learn different experiements. Go to the library and buy a science book. If he doesn't want to stand next to you at a store then buy a hand leash and put him to the buggy...he will HATE it so he will learn to stand and not wander. My son went outside his school yesturday and stood outside the doors to wait for me without an adult too. They think they are big boys and can do this stuff. You son sounds perfectly normal, maybe a bit hyper but you just have to find a place for him to put it. My kids are not like your son but I am exhausted at bedtime too. That's what we get for having more then one child. hahaha Keep posting sweetie. Love that baby, it's your job to find his outlet. Search the web and ask parents of children with ADD or ADHD.
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Hi There, It is hard to say if he is doing all these things for attention, even if it does give him negative attention, in a childs eyes it is still attention. So by sending him to a boarding school that could be very devestating to him IF he thinks he is not getting enough attention now.
I know exactly what you are going through! My Sister-in- law (she was my best friend) died very unexpectedly last year. At the time her children were 4,7 and 3 months. I ended up raising the 4 (boy) and 7 (girl) year olds. The 4 year old has had major behavior issues since he was just big enough to get around, like your boy. So even though his mother passed away we couldnt even use her death as a reason for his behavior. I had NEVER seen a child with such horrible behavior issues as his, and i have 5 children of my own with my oldest boy having ADHD. I thought i had it rough raising my boy, but this 4 year old proved to me that raising my boy was a piece of cake.
This 4 year old also has a problem keeping his hands to himself!!!!!!
He total invades EVERYONES personal space, always touching people even after they clearly tell him to keep his hands to himself. There is absolutely NO DICIPLINE that works with this child as he is a repeat offender. He would do something bad and i could get down on his level and talk to him and explain to him why he wasnt allowed to do certain things as well as tell him the consequences if he does it again, he will acknowledge it and then walk away and go right directly and do the same thing again!
It doesnt matter what he does wrong, if you ask him why he did it he will say
"because i wanted to"! He turned 5 last March and nothing has changed. He has to wear a pull up to bed as well as he will often pee his pants and sometimes poop his pants during the day. Most of the time when he goes in his pants it is him being spiteful, as he will stand in front of the bathroom door and go in his pants!
The terrible things that this child does is just to many to list, but i am sure you can imagine. He went to live with his biological father in July, I love this child but that was the happiest day of my life!!!!!!!!!!! While i had him he attended a special needs preschool, this teacher has dealt with many children with behavior issues throughout the years, even she had no idea what to do with him, as nothing gets through to him! His teacher even told me that she was scared to think what is going to happen to this child and where he will be when he is a teenager.
Now that he is with his father he has gotten even worse, as his father does not and will not dicipline him!
My suggestion to you would be to call your local Human Services Agency and see what type of programs they may have available for him to attend. They would probably even set him up with some counceling. In the mean time i would talk to your pediatrician and have them make a referral for your child to be evaluated to see if he fits a criteria for a diagnosis.
Sorry if i wasnt much help, but i also wanted you to know that you are not alone and that there are many children out there who struggle with their behavior!
Good Luck,
ValleyGurl
Answers:
I think counseling is in order. I know a 5-year old who's getting counseling for some of this same behavior -mostly she has a problem recognizing boundaries - where another person's space begins and her's ends. She's always very physical, just like your boy.
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I think counseling is in order. -mostly she has a problem recognizing boundaries - where another person's space begins and her's ends. She's always very physical, just like your boy. What kind of counseling? From where?
Thanks everyone for your help!!!