child forcing vomiting
Anyone have this problem?? My 3yr old daughter forces herself to vomit when she cries. Almost everytime she cries (an angry cry, or when shes done something wrong not when shes hurt) she makes herself gag and ends up making herself vomit. When she was younger I know she had no control over it, but I KNOW she just does it now for attention. When she starts to gag I just put her into the washroom and let her puke into the toilet and I walk away. I dont want her thinking that this is going to get my attention and feel sorry for her. There have been times when she was legitimitly sick and of course I was there rubbing her back and holding her hair out of the way and using a face cloth to wipe off her face but I refuse to do that when shes making herself do it. I let her puke till shes done and I explain to her that thats icky and gross and big girls dont like to puke and the I proceed to put her into a time out if it is needed. Shes a smart little girl, but its getting out of hand. Any help??????????????/
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i don't know what to do either, but understand what you are going through. my son is now 4 and it has gotten better. but his is when he is eating. if he doesn't want to eat what we are having, the he will take one bite and make hisself throw up. it is so frustrating. and i have cleaned up vomit more times than i would like to admit. i hate to spank my kids, but that is the only thing that finally helped. it doesn't happen to often, but if he starts gaging, then i say if you make yourself throw up, then you are going to get a spanking. usually he stops, and i have only had to actually spank him for it twice. knock on wood, it has been about 4 months since he has actually vomited.
i also have a 13 month old who makes hisself throw up if he's mad. usually when he is in his bed, not that i let him cry it out, but if i just put him in there and he doesn't want to be in there, the he will all of the sudden cry so deep and make himself vomit, with in a matter of a minute. he is too little to understand or to spank, so i just tell him NO, NO. real sternly. i try not to let him ever get that way. i know it is horrible to give in, but it is either give in or clean up throw-up. i am hoping he will out grow this soon, or i will be in exactly the same boat as you are.
so i do understand, but not sure what to do about it. what is causing her to be so mad? like getting in trouble or not getting what she wants? i don't know if she just turned 3 or is closer to 4, but i know one thing that has helped with our son in other aspects, since he was about 3.5, is grounding. now that he is 4 it is the computer or his V-smile. it used to be his favorite toy or no tv. he will not get to watch or play with it the rest of the day. at first i didn't think he would understand, but children are more understanding than we give them credit for. maybe worth a try.
good luck to you and on a good note, at least it's in the toilet.
have a good day.
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my daughter did that once when she was 2, cleaned her up then next time she tried that again she got squirted with water....doctor said it was an emotional attention grabber..
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My five year old did it for attention as well. If she had to eat something she didn't want or if she got into trouble. We just had a talk with her and explained the difference between good attention and bad attention, and that the throwing up was going to get bad attention. We told her that you do that when your sick. It had a lot to do with us having a new baby at home. When she is trying to get attention in the wrong way now she knows what the consiquences are be it sitting in the corner or going to her room. It only happened a couple of times and luckily it seems to be over.
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What about making your daughter clean up her mess after she vomits? Give her a rag or mop or what-not and tell her to clean up the mess she made. She knows what she's doing is wrong, and maybe if she has to clean up after herself, she'll see that she's doing something unacceptable. There's also removal of toys, television, the computer and visits with friends.
How about this: Every time she decides to vomit, she loses a toy temporarily. She vomits again intentionally, she loses the toy permenantly. Of course, you tell her these things beforehand. She vomits once, you tell her "If you do that again, you'll lose Mr. Snuffles". She does it again, you say, "You do that one more time and Mr. Snuffles goes in the garbage". She does it a third time and you take the toy in question and throw it away while making sure she sees where the toy is going. Make it known that this would be cumulative - she doesn't get three strikes a day. She gets three strikes forever. Every third strike means she loses another toy for good, and if she needs to lose all her toys to learn something, then so be it. It's harsh, but sometimes you need to be that way to get kids to learn anything.
Let me just say that I watched my mother throw my favorite toy in the fireplace when I was five or six and whatever I did wrong that made her do that, I never did again after watching my stuffed toy get burned.
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i don't know what to do either, but understand what you are going through. my son is now 4 and it has gotten better. but his is when he is eating. if he doesn't want to eat what we are having, the he will take one bite and make hisself throw up. it is so frustrating. and i have cleaned up vomit more times than i would like to admit. i hate to spank my kids, but that is the only thing that finally helped. it doesn't happen to often, but if he starts gaging, then i say if you make yourself throw up, then you are going to get a spanking. usually he stops, and i have only had to actually spank him for it twice. knock on wood, it has been about 4 months since he has actually vomited.
i also have a 13 month old who makes hisself throw up if he's mad. usually when he is in his bed, not that i let him cry it out, but if i just put him in there and he doesn't want to be in there, the he will all of the sudden cry so deep and make himself vomit, with in a matter of a minute. he is too little to understand or to spank, so i just tell him NO, NO. real sternly. i try not to let him ever get that way. i know it is horrible to give in, but it is either give in or clean up throw-up. i am hoping he will out grow this soon, or i will be in exactly the same boat as you are.
so i do understand, but not sure what to do about it. what is causing her to be so mad? like getting in trouble or not getting what she wants? i don't know if she just turned 3 or is closer to 4, but i know one thing that has helped with our son in other aspects, since he was about 3.5, is grounding. now that he is 4 it is the computer or his V-smile. it used to be his favorite toy or no tv. he will not get to watch or play with it the rest of the day. at first i didn't think he would understand, but children are more understanding than we give them credit for. maybe worth a try.
good luck to you and on a good note, at least it's in the toilet.
have a good day.
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my daughter did that once when she was 2, cleaned her up then next time she tried that again she got squirted with water....doctor said it was an emotional attention grabber..
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My five year old did it for attention as well. If she had to eat something she didn't want or if she got into trouble. We just had a talk with her and explained the difference between good attention and bad attention, and that the throwing up was going to get bad attention. We told her that you do that when your sick. It had a lot to do with us having a new baby at home. When she is trying to get attention in the wrong way now she knows what the consiquences are be it sitting in the corner or going to her room. It only happened a couple of times and luckily it seems to be over.
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What about making your daughter clean up her mess after she vomits? Give her a rag or mop or what-not and tell her to clean up the mess she made. She knows what she's doing is wrong, and maybe if she has to clean up after herself, she'll see that she's doing something unacceptable. There's also removal of toys, television, the computer and visits with friends.
How about this: Every time she decides to vomit, she loses a toy temporarily. She vomits again intentionally, she loses the toy permenantly. Of course, you tell her these things beforehand. She vomits once, you tell her "If you do that again, you'll lose Mr. Snuffles". She does it again, you say, "You do that one more time and Mr. Snuffles goes in the garbage". She does it a third time and you take the toy in question and throw it away while making sure she sees where the toy is going. Make it known that this would be cumulative - she doesn't get three strikes a day. She gets three strikes forever. Every third strike means she loses another toy for good, and if she needs to lose all her toys to learn something, then so be it. It's harsh, but sometimes you need to be that way to get kids to learn anything.
Let me just say that I watched my mother throw my favorite toy in the fireplace when I was five or six and whatever I did wrong that made her do that, I never did again after watching my stuffed toy get burned.