depressed angered child
I'm planning to take my 9 year old daughter to the dr soon but wanted some advise. the problem is my daughter is constantly mad about something, wrong shoes to wear, don't like that shirt or pants or socks and so on. Doesn't like her hair she is too fat nobody likes her everyone hates her. her older sister doesn't love her no one loves her she is going to her room and stay forever no one will miss her. she wishes she were dead cause she messes up all the time anyway. Hearing her crying and yelling makes me so mad and upset and makes me cry as well. We have tried telling her positive things, punishing her, and ignoring her. Nothing works. She does very good in school. but everywhere else its like this 70% of the time. I have tried warning her when I hear the tantrum starting trying to get her to think and breath first, doesn't work.
How do drs evaluate the differance in depression, other disorders and attitude problems? When is it more than just needing an attitude adjustment? I have had depression for several years now but I really tried not to let them see it. My lexapro is the best. The other problem is my husband does not agree with therapy. "I am not making my child go to a phsyciatrist, end of story". I will do what is best anyway.
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Raquel, I am sorry that you all are going through this. Yes, therapy would be helpful. Have you tried just giving her a hug when she acts like this? She is definitely hurting.
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I agree with Sannah, again.
I believe there is some underlying problem as to why she is acting this way. Possibly some comment made at school; she may have overheard something. Has she ever been bullied, or compared to her sister? How are her friendships going? Has something occurred to make her think she is unloved, not wanted? Hopefully therapy can bring out what's bothering her and you both can deal with the issues at hand. In the meantime, yes, hugs, comfort, reassurance and positive communication are all you can really do. Best of luck.
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yes she does get compared to her sister some. my therapist today says to give in to her more and to let her wear missmatched clothes and to express my feelings about her more. maybe she feels like no one understands her because she doesn't hear it where as some kids just understand it. She is a middle child. anyone heard of the middle child syndrome? no she is not bullied or made fun of and she has lots of friends at school. school is great A's and B's. the other day she told me about something that she had lied to me about and she was crying. it was something very minor and it happened 10 months ago. she is a very honest child just, just, somethings going on.
How do drs evaluate the differance in depression, other disorders and attitude problems? When is it more than just needing an attitude adjustment? I have had depression for several years now but I really tried not to let them see it. My lexapro is the best. The other problem is my husband does not agree with therapy. "I am not making my child go to a phsyciatrist, end of story". I will do what is best anyway.
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Raquel, I am sorry that you all are going through this. Yes, therapy would be helpful. Have you tried just giving her a hug when she acts like this? She is definitely hurting.
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I agree with Sannah, again.
I believe there is some underlying problem as to why she is acting this way. Possibly some comment made at school; she may have overheard something. Has she ever been bullied, or compared to her sister? How are her friendships going? Has something occurred to make her think she is unloved, not wanted? Hopefully therapy can bring out what's bothering her and you both can deal with the issues at hand. In the meantime, yes, hugs, comfort, reassurance and positive communication are all you can really do. Best of luck.
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yes she does get compared to her sister some. my therapist today says to give in to her more and to let her wear missmatched clothes and to express my feelings about her more. maybe she feels like no one understands her because she doesn't hear it where as some kids just understand it. She is a middle child. anyone heard of the middle child syndrome? no she is not bullied or made fun of and she has lots of friends at school. school is great A's and B's. the other day she told me about something that she had lied to me about and she was crying. it was something very minor and it happened 10 months ago. she is a very honest child just, just, somethings going on.