4 year old destroying books
Yesterday my 4 y.old tore appart beutiful expensive pop-up pictures book, she did it before as well. Normally it happened at night. She was saying that she doesn't like them. But she used to like when I was reading books to her. My dh thinks that we should take her to psychologist.
Any advices welcome.
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how about a swat on the butt, and keep the books out of her reach when she goes to bed? I really don't think this is something that warrants therapy, do you?
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She told me that she wants to look at the book after I finished reading it and I've trusted her. That what I will have to do - hide.
My dh afraid of me hitting her, he has some theories that it could be worse.
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how about a swat on the butt, and keep the books out of her reach when she goes to bed? I really don't think this is something that warrants therapy, do you? I agree. If it has happened multiple times, and she has been disciplined (time out, priviledges taken away, etc) and she does it again, a swat might get her attention. If you really don't want to spank her, then maybe no more storytime for a few days- if she really values storytime.
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A swat on the butt will do nothing to address the real issue. You need to try and figure out what the motivation is behind this behavior. She won't be able to tell you, you have to become a detective. But, for sure, there is motivation behind every behavior. She is telling you something and you need to figure it out. It may have to do with some need not being met. Maybe she's angry at you for some reason. I suggest you start by not letting her have the book after reading time is over. If she asks for it, simply say no. There are some other approaches you can use such as giving her an old book that can be torn up and ask her if she wants to tear it up with you. And then talk about the experience of tearing it up. That might allow her to shed a bit of light on the motivation. A counselor might be useful but I would recommend one that specializes in play therapy or sand tray therapy both of which are effective for children at that age. Good luck.
Any advices welcome.
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how about a swat on the butt, and keep the books out of her reach when she goes to bed? I really don't think this is something that warrants therapy, do you?
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She told me that she wants to look at the book after I finished reading it and I've trusted her. That what I will have to do - hide.
My dh afraid of me hitting her, he has some theories that it could be worse.
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how about a swat on the butt, and keep the books out of her reach when she goes to bed? I really don't think this is something that warrants therapy, do you? I agree. If it has happened multiple times, and she has been disciplined (time out, priviledges taken away, etc) and she does it again, a swat might get her attention. If you really don't want to spank her, then maybe no more storytime for a few days- if she really values storytime.
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A swat on the butt will do nothing to address the real issue. You need to try and figure out what the motivation is behind this behavior. She won't be able to tell you, you have to become a detective. But, for sure, there is motivation behind every behavior. She is telling you something and you need to figure it out. It may have to do with some need not being met. Maybe she's angry at you for some reason. I suggest you start by not letting her have the book after reading time is over. If she asks for it, simply say no. There are some other approaches you can use such as giving her an old book that can be torn up and ask her if she wants to tear it up with you. And then talk about the experience of tearing it up. That might allow her to shed a bit of light on the motivation. A counselor might be useful but I would recommend one that specializes in play therapy or sand tray therapy both of which are effective for children at that age. Good luck.