Spanking
I'm a 21 year old female. I just wanted to let all parents out there know about the damage that spanking leaves behind. Although there may be some exceptions in few individuals. Most of this is through first hand knowledge.
I have never met any well adjusted person who was spanked as a child. Spanking is hitting. People like to use the word "spank" because they don't like thinking that they're hitting their child.
Spanking doesn't work because it causes pain and fear. Instead of drawing your child over to your side of things and calmly understand and rationalizing, they're caused pain because they were bad, without ever really understanding what was bad, why they shouldn't have done it, and how not to do it in the future.
It also teaches the child to act out in violence while feeling angry or frustrated.
It causes low self esteem, depression, anxiety, social problems, and leads to abusive relationships. Platonic or not. Particularly, men abusing women and women being drawn to abusive men and abusive relationships. It also teaches the child to pass down the same punishment to their children.
You can verify this information by speaking to professionals in the psychological field and many places, such as social services, have pamphlets.
Even if you use spanking as a "last resort" because "nothing else has worked", that's not an excuse. You can turn to the internet, books, professionals, family, doctors, teachers, the child's guidance counselor, and friends for other non violent ideas.
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I'm a 21 year old female. I just wanted to let all parents out there know about the damage that spanking leaves behind. Although there may be some exceptions in few individuals. Most of this is through first hand knowledge.
I have never met any well adjusted person who was spanked as a child. Spanking is hitting. People like to use the word "spank" because they don't like thinking that they're hitting their child.
Spanking doesn't work because it causes pain and fear. Instead of drawing your child over to your side of things and calmly understand and rationalizing, they're caused pain because they were bad, without ever really understanding what was bad, why they shouldn't have done it, and how not to do it in the future.
It also teaches the child to act out in violence while feeling angry or frustrated.
It causes low self esteem, depression, anxiety, social problems, and leads to abusive relationships. Platonic or not. Particularly, men abusing women and women being drawn to abusive men and abusive relationships. It also teaches the child to pass down the same punishment to their children.
You can verify this information by speaking to professionals in the psychological field and many places, such as social services, have pamphlets.
Even if you use spanking as a "last resort" because "nothing else has worked", that's not an excuse. You can turn to the internet, books, professionals, family, doctors, teachers, the child's guidance counselor, and friends for other non violent ideas.
My father spanked me when I was a kid, and I tell you what, I thank god that he did now. I am 26 years old. Although I didn't understand then, I do now. I wouldn't be the person that I am now if it weren't for my father. (Which is really my step-father, but he is DAD to me)
I am one of those people that believe there is a difference between spanking and hitting. Spanking/Whipping are just what they are. A form of discipline.
Hitting on the other hand (In my opinion) is slapping, punching, kicking etc which I don't believe is right for children.
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Ms. Mouse, I agree with you!
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I guess I shouldn't turn this into a debate but...
Definition
spank Show phonetics
verb [T]
1 to hit a child with the hand, usually several times on the bottom as a punishment
2 to hit an adult on the bottom in order to get or give sexual pleasure
(from Cambridge Advanced Learner's Dictionary)
Pronunciation: 'spa[ng]k
Function: transitive verb
Etymology: imitative
: to strike especially on the buttocks with the open hand
- spank noun
Merriam Webster Dictionary.
Main Entry: 1strike
Pronunciation: 'strIk
Function: verb
2 a : to aim and usually deliver a blow, stroke, or thrust (as with the hand, a weapon, or a tool) b : to arrive with detrimental effect <disaster struck> c : to attempt to undermine or harm something as if by a blow <struck at...cherished notions -- R. P. Warren>
I don't see much difference. A spank hurts. A slap hurts. Interchange the words but, to me, the definitions stay the same.
Edited to add:
The act of spanking is aggressive and an angry act. Chances are that if you spank, you're also yelling and displaying other punishments detrimental to your child's emotional well being.
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I agree. Spanking is hitting is violence. Put yourself in the child's position. Let's say a child is 3 feet tall and an adult is 6 feet tall, twice the size. Now, let's say you are 6 feet tall. How would you like someone 12 feet tall coming over to you and spanking you? Would it not be terrifying? If the child is only 2feet tall the 6 footer is 3 times as big. How would you feel if someone 24 feet tall came over to you and even threatening to spank you? You'd probably wet your pants! You think a child feels any different? You think a child is reasoning, "oh, I did something wrong I'm being punished, its for my own good." No way! There are much better ways of disciplining a child and there is plenty of reading material about it.
I have never met any well adjusted person who was spanked as a child. Spanking is hitting. People like to use the word "spank" because they don't like thinking that they're hitting their child.
Spanking doesn't work because it causes pain and fear. Instead of drawing your child over to your side of things and calmly understand and rationalizing, they're caused pain because they were bad, without ever really understanding what was bad, why they shouldn't have done it, and how not to do it in the future.
It also teaches the child to act out in violence while feeling angry or frustrated.
It causes low self esteem, depression, anxiety, social problems, and leads to abusive relationships. Platonic or not. Particularly, men abusing women and women being drawn to abusive men and abusive relationships. It also teaches the child to pass down the same punishment to their children.
You can verify this information by speaking to professionals in the psychological field and many places, such as social services, have pamphlets.
Even if you use spanking as a "last resort" because "nothing else has worked", that's not an excuse. You can turn to the internet, books, professionals, family, doctors, teachers, the child's guidance counselor, and friends for other non violent ideas.
Answers:
I'm a 21 year old female. I just wanted to let all parents out there know about the damage that spanking leaves behind. Although there may be some exceptions in few individuals. Most of this is through first hand knowledge.
I have never met any well adjusted person who was spanked as a child. Spanking is hitting. People like to use the word "spank" because they don't like thinking that they're hitting their child.
Spanking doesn't work because it causes pain and fear. Instead of drawing your child over to your side of things and calmly understand and rationalizing, they're caused pain because they were bad, without ever really understanding what was bad, why they shouldn't have done it, and how not to do it in the future.
It also teaches the child to act out in violence while feeling angry or frustrated.
It causes low self esteem, depression, anxiety, social problems, and leads to abusive relationships. Platonic or not. Particularly, men abusing women and women being drawn to abusive men and abusive relationships. It also teaches the child to pass down the same punishment to their children.
You can verify this information by speaking to professionals in the psychological field and many places, such as social services, have pamphlets.
Even if you use spanking as a "last resort" because "nothing else has worked", that's not an excuse. You can turn to the internet, books, professionals, family, doctors, teachers, the child's guidance counselor, and friends for other non violent ideas.
My father spanked me when I was a kid, and I tell you what, I thank god that he did now. I am 26 years old. Although I didn't understand then, I do now. I wouldn't be the person that I am now if it weren't for my father. (Which is really my step-father, but he is DAD to me)
I am one of those people that believe there is a difference between spanking and hitting. Spanking/Whipping are just what they are. A form of discipline.
Hitting on the other hand (In my opinion) is slapping, punching, kicking etc which I don't believe is right for children.
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Ms. Mouse, I agree with you!
Answers:
I guess I shouldn't turn this into a debate but...
Definition
spank Show phonetics
verb [T]
1 to hit a child with the hand, usually several times on the bottom as a punishment
2 to hit an adult on the bottom in order to get or give sexual pleasure
(from Cambridge Advanced Learner's Dictionary)
Pronunciation: 'spa[ng]k
Function: transitive verb
Etymology: imitative
: to strike especially on the buttocks with the open hand
- spank noun
Merriam Webster Dictionary.
Main Entry: 1strike
Pronunciation: 'strIk
Function: verb
2 a : to aim and usually deliver a blow, stroke, or thrust (as with the hand, a weapon, or a tool) b : to arrive with detrimental effect <disaster struck> c : to attempt to undermine or harm something as if by a blow <struck at...cherished notions -- R. P. Warren>
I don't see much difference. A spank hurts. A slap hurts. Interchange the words but, to me, the definitions stay the same.
Edited to add:
The act of spanking is aggressive and an angry act. Chances are that if you spank, you're also yelling and displaying other punishments detrimental to your child's emotional well being.
Answers:
I agree. Spanking is hitting is violence. Put yourself in the child's position. Let's say a child is 3 feet tall and an adult is 6 feet tall, twice the size. Now, let's say you are 6 feet tall. How would you like someone 12 feet tall coming over to you and spanking you? Would it not be terrifying? If the child is only 2feet tall the 6 footer is 3 times as big. How would you feel if someone 24 feet tall came over to you and even threatening to spank you? You'd probably wet your pants! You think a child feels any different? You think a child is reasoning, "oh, I did something wrong I'm being punished, its for my own good." No way! There are much better ways of disciplining a child and there is plenty of reading material about it.