What would happen to your kids if you died?
So me and DH are flying to Hawaii next month without DS and we got to talking about what would happen if god forbid we both passed away, where would DS go? DH said not to worry DS would just go to his grandparents house to live but I dont feel comfortable with that. I would much prefer he go live with my cousin and her family who live about 2000 miles form us. So we have been discussing this for about a week and havent come up with a solution. DH is set on DS going to my MIL house. I just dont think that is the best place to raise a child(DS is only 18 months old). Have any of you gone through this? how did you find a common ground? what would happen to DS if we didnt have anything in writing? would the courts decide where he goes? ugggghhh help!
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If you don't have it written into your will then the courts will ask who wants the child and then the judge will decide who he/she thinks is best for the child.
We have it written into our will. My brother will take the kids. We've asked db and his wife and they've said yes. That is something you just must get done and into writing! So many people don't think about things like that.
Sometimes people "want" the kids just to get to the $$ from the estate. It's sad but it happens a lot.
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My mother in low push us to make a will after my dd was born otherwise kid will stay in foster care until court will decide where she will go.
My brother is first choice 'cause he is younger and touch wood doing well financial and his brother is second choice. They are agree on that. Our parents is getting old, so they weren't considered, may be as a last resort.
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I think that with my kids there might be a huge fight between my ex and my mom. I know the court would put them with him but he would have to allow visitation or something because my girls would rather go to my mom than their dad any day.
I wish it was an easier situation for my kids if something ever happened to me. But there isn't much I could do about it even if it were in my will to have them go to my parents.
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We decided to have it written into our wills shortly after ds was born 6 years ago after a similar discussion about what would happen to him. I personally thought (and dh agreed) that our families (well, moms ) would fight about who should have custody. After talking about it and asking her, we decided that we would want my older sister to be his guardian. We now have a 9 month old daughter as well... does anyone know if I need to update our wills to include two children - or is that assumed? I guess I'll need to pull it out and check. My sister also has a copy of the wills and we told her where our original is in case of an emergency. It's such an awful thought to think about your kids being raised by someone other than you, so it's not something a lot of people want to deal. I would definitely make a decision as soon as possible and get it in writing. Have fun on your trip!
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If you don't have it written into your will then the courts will ask who wants the child and then the judge will decide who he/she thinks is best for the child.
We have it written into our will. My brother will take the kids. We've asked db and his wife and they've said yes. That is something you just must get done and into writing! So many people don't think about things like that.
Sometimes people "want" the kids just to get to the $$ from the estate. It's sad but it happens a lot.
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My mother in low push us to make a will after my dd was born otherwise kid will stay in foster care until court will decide where she will go.
My brother is first choice 'cause he is younger and touch wood doing well financial and his brother is second choice. They are agree on that. Our parents is getting old, so they weren't considered, may be as a last resort.
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I think that with my kids there might be a huge fight between my ex and my mom. I know the court would put them with him but he would have to allow visitation or something because my girls would rather go to my mom than their dad any day.
I wish it was an easier situation for my kids if something ever happened to me. But there isn't much I could do about it even if it were in my will to have them go to my parents.
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We decided to have it written into our wills shortly after ds was born 6 years ago after a similar discussion about what would happen to him. I personally thought (and dh agreed) that our families (well, moms ) would fight about who should have custody. After talking about it and asking her, we decided that we would want my older sister to be his guardian. We now have a 9 month old daughter as well... does anyone know if I need to update our wills to include two children - or is that assumed? I guess I'll need to pull it out and check. My sister also has a copy of the wills and we told her where our original is in case of an emergency. It's such an awful thought to think about your kids being raised by someone other than you, so it's not something a lot of people want to deal. I would definitely make a decision as soon as possible and get it in writing. Have fun on your trip!