My Preschooler hates going to preschool-help
My son, who is 4 1/2, has been going to pre-school/daycare for about a year and a half. We started out going a few days, part-time. He hated it at first so we switched to a different school and he really loved it at first. Gradually I had to increase my work hours so he's going 4 days in a row, 8:30-5ish. Now we're back to not wanting to go. I swear we're both in tears by the time we get there. Then it's 1 more hug and 1 more kiss before I go, then it's please pick me up before nap Momma pleeeeaaaassssseeee. His teacher says he cries almost everytime he wakes from his nap and asks for me. Otherwise his teacher says he's fine and has a great time, don't worry etc... but I just can't ignore it! I want to know if anyone else has had this issue and what you did to help your kid feel better about going. Help, I'm a wreck and thinking about changing jobs. My Husband is supportive over anything we can do but I'm just not sure what I should do!
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My dd is going to daycare since she was 3 months. At first when we changed daycare she didn't want to go to the new one for 2 weeks. She had used to it now. She has periods when she doesn't want to go. We have no choice; she should go. In my opinion keep taking him there until he has used to it. If it is reputable place with refrences and you have no reason to belive that he is mistreated there, you should keep taking him.
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Personally, now remember this is a personal issue, no one can make decisions for you, if I could change things, I would take my child out.
He is so young and if he hates it why make him do it? It's not a necessity. I know a lot of people will reply to this and start talking about "but what about school? They can't just quit school." That's different. That's something that is non-negotiable and the kids are older.
Even there you have different choices. Homeschooling, private, public, religious, etc.
Back to the subject at hand, after being there, doing that and not taking my child out, if I could do it again, I would take him out in a heartbeat.
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Thanks PinkPiglet, I would take him out if I could. He's not starting kindergarten this year because we feel his still too immature and doesn't want to go. he would just turn 5 right before the school year and so we're waiting until he's 6. He's a wonderful student, fast learner and quite bright (already reading some) but he says the reason he doesn't like school is they don't get to play as much and he loves to play! I guess that would be true for most kids. I'm going to try and cut back my hours so he's there for a shorter period of time. Maybe that would help. I would love to hear more about your experience and why you would have taken your child out if you could do it over again. Please share.
Thanks!
Linda
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My son still remembers being in the classroom that he hated. The teachers were wonderful (my dd's went there too and I am a good friend with one to this day). However, the noise and chaos of all those kids really bothered him. He would sit in a corner and stay by himself.
For him it was not a good experience. For his sisters it was great.
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My dd is going to daycare since she was 3 months. At first when we changed daycare she didn't want to go to the new one for 2 weeks. She had used to it now. She has periods when she doesn't want to go. We have no choice; she should go. In my opinion keep taking him there until he has used to it. If it is reputable place with refrences and you have no reason to belive that he is mistreated there, you should keep taking him.
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Personally, now remember this is a personal issue, no one can make decisions for you, if I could change things, I would take my child out.
He is so young and if he hates it why make him do it? It's not a necessity. I know a lot of people will reply to this and start talking about "but what about school? They can't just quit school." That's different. That's something that is non-negotiable and the kids are older.
Even there you have different choices. Homeschooling, private, public, religious, etc.
Back to the subject at hand, after being there, doing that and not taking my child out, if I could do it again, I would take him out in a heartbeat.
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Thanks PinkPiglet, I would take him out if I could. He's not starting kindergarten this year because we feel his still too immature and doesn't want to go. he would just turn 5 right before the school year and so we're waiting until he's 6. He's a wonderful student, fast learner and quite bright (already reading some) but he says the reason he doesn't like school is they don't get to play as much and he loves to play! I guess that would be true for most kids. I'm going to try and cut back my hours so he's there for a shorter period of time. Maybe that would help. I would love to hear more about your experience and why you would have taken your child out if you could do it over again. Please share.
Thanks!
Linda
Answers:
My son still remembers being in the classroom that he hated. The teachers were wonderful (my dd's went there too and I am a good friend with one to this day). However, the noise and chaos of all those kids really bothered him. He would sit in a corner and stay by himself.
For him it was not a good experience. For his sisters it was great.