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Hi,
My heart goes out to your daughter...Just you being there for her, support and love her is what she needs from you..I was molested from the ages 5-12 by my stepfather until he commited suicide..I know what this can do to a person..Please have her see a good therapist..I feel that's important i'm 28 years old and i finally went to one he has helped me.. Maybe not at first and yes it took me a while to get comfortable..I carried these emotions around with me for years it was eating for the inside out..Talking to someone takes a weight off your back..Stay strong and good luck on your court hearing..
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Hi Diana, I'm sorry you had to go through so much your self also., I hope you and your children are ok and things go well with your daughter in the future. Its a horrible mental toll on sexually abused children when they become adults , I hope my daughter will be able to heal ok. I would love to know more about the court process if you happen to read this post. I do believe the court system is very flawed when it comes down to cases such as these. especially when there is not alot of evidence and it is just one persons word against another. I know all cases are not the same but there shouls be stiffer sentencing for these sick individuals. I'm very sorry you suffer from night terrors my daughter has terrible flash backs also. I will pray for your family and for your daughter's safe return home and safety at her dad's. I do appreciate your post, it was incredibly touching to me. I hope therapy will help you out because you deserve to finally be happy and freed from this burden you have been carrying around with you all this time. I hope to hear from you soon. God bless..Thanks for your post. Dee
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Hi , I just want to let everyone know we did go to court and after a year and a half he was covicted of all 6 charges. Thank GOD!!! We were amazed and pleased that the jury ruled in our favor because we were told we did not have alot of evidence. It was just my daughters word against his but we told the truth and the DA did her best and it worked out great. If anyone has any questions I would love to help or give advice. I started a non-profit for parents of sexually abused kids because when I needed support I could not find any there were alot for survivors but not for the parents , we to suffer tremendously. http://******.verizon.net/dee7ort/ If you want any information or guidance. You would be surprised how far the truth can go. It is possible to win these cases and send sick men like this to jail for a very long time... God Bless us all!
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good luck with everything. My dad molested me for years. I never told anybody. There were a couple situations where I suspected my mom knew but she was in denial the entire time. Finally when I was 14 I told my mom everything. She kept saying it was "hard to believe" and kept asking me if I was sure it really happened and if it was a dream. She confronted my dad that night and of course he denied it saying I was lying. Funny thing is he never once said anything to me about it. My mom told me the next day that he said I was the "sick one" lying.. Well the subject never came up again and it was obvious she has been trying to convince herself that it never happened and I probably imagined the whole thing. She never once said I beleive you 100 percent or anything close to that. She acted doubtful instead. So good for you for standing up for your daughter. I wish I had a mom like that. Good luck I know I would be so mad and frustrated if I were in your position!
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Hello out there,
I don't know where to begin.
I am sooooo sorry for what you and especialy your daughter has & have yet to go through.
I now unfortunately know both aspects of being the one that has been molested & the mother of a precious baby that this has happend to.
Can I just say & Pleaseee believe be when I say with every being of my soul that "My prayers are with the 2 of you! "
I was molested @ the age of 5 by one of my oldest Brothers friends.
I also kept it a secret ( until I was 16) becuase even @ that young age I was terrified that if I told my mother, I would not have her anymore, because I thought she would go too jail for doing something really bad to protect me in her rage because she loved me soooooooo much!
I know that the ONLY way I got through it was God's love & grace.
I now on the other hand am seeing AND definately feeling what it's like being the Mother.
Can I just syber scream aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh hhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh hhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!
That doesn't even begin to explain how & what challenges I am going through
right now!
My worst fear has come true!!!!!!
I am in soooooo much pain inside physicaly that I don't know what to do.
My whole being is a big blurr right now.
My head won't stop,I have 2 other children & I by any means do not want them & her especialy too see me @ this breaking point!
The boy who molested her is my husbands,brothers step child that has only been in this family for 5yrs.
We all live on 40 acres.
So she is being violated I feel repeatedly everyday when he walks,rides his bike or w/ his parents to go up to my Husbands parent's house every stinking day?
I am "FURIOUS."
I don't know what to do, am I wrong for not pressing charges because of wanting to spare her the stares,the hate & the agoney that goes w/ a long drawn out case that ultimately in the end might not work out in her favor because once again it's his word against hers.
Then in the end even if it is in her favor it still has not acomplished anything towards her emotional & mental well being, but by doing that might only add to th sting.
Please shed some insight on this for me, PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE.
Any prayers would be more than appreciated.
Thank you so much,
Kasandra
P.S Please don't take any offense to my opinion on the haveing a court case issue.That is just strictly my opinion in our issue for my child alone.
Not for anyone else bacause each horriable un human thing that has been done to your child,you or someone you know or that is in your family is unique
in it's own case!
Prayers to all that want or need them,
Kasandra
"Whyyyyyyyyyyyyyy, by baby girl is only 4,just 4 yrs. old!"
My heart goes out to your daughter...Just you being there for her, support and love her is what she needs from you..I was molested from the ages 5-12 by my stepfather until he commited suicide..I know what this can do to a person..Please have her see a good therapist..I feel that's important i'm 28 years old and i finally went to one he has helped me.. Maybe not at first and yes it took me a while to get comfortable..I carried these emotions around with me for years it was eating for the inside out..Talking to someone takes a weight off your back..Stay strong and good luck on your court hearing..
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Hi Diana, I'm sorry you had to go through so much your self also., I hope you and your children are ok and things go well with your daughter in the future. Its a horrible mental toll on sexually abused children when they become adults , I hope my daughter will be able to heal ok. I would love to know more about the court process if you happen to read this post. I do believe the court system is very flawed when it comes down to cases such as these. especially when there is not alot of evidence and it is just one persons word against another. I know all cases are not the same but there shouls be stiffer sentencing for these sick individuals. I'm very sorry you suffer from night terrors my daughter has terrible flash backs also. I will pray for your family and for your daughter's safe return home and safety at her dad's. I do appreciate your post, it was incredibly touching to me. I hope therapy will help you out because you deserve to finally be happy and freed from this burden you have been carrying around with you all this time. I hope to hear from you soon. God bless..Thanks for your post. Dee
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Hi , I just want to let everyone know we did go to court and after a year and a half he was covicted of all 6 charges. Thank GOD!!! We were amazed and pleased that the jury ruled in our favor because we were told we did not have alot of evidence. It was just my daughters word against his but we told the truth and the DA did her best and it worked out great. If anyone has any questions I would love to help or give advice. I started a non-profit for parents of sexually abused kids because when I needed support I could not find any there were alot for survivors but not for the parents , we to suffer tremendously. http://******.verizon.net/dee7ort/ If you want any information or guidance. You would be surprised how far the truth can go. It is possible to win these cases and send sick men like this to jail for a very long time... God Bless us all!
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good luck with everything. My dad molested me for years. I never told anybody. There were a couple situations where I suspected my mom knew but she was in denial the entire time. Finally when I was 14 I told my mom everything. She kept saying it was "hard to believe" and kept asking me if I was sure it really happened and if it was a dream. She confronted my dad that night and of course he denied it saying I was lying. Funny thing is he never once said anything to me about it. My mom told me the next day that he said I was the "sick one" lying.. Well the subject never came up again and it was obvious she has been trying to convince herself that it never happened and I probably imagined the whole thing. She never once said I beleive you 100 percent or anything close to that. She acted doubtful instead. So good for you for standing up for your daughter. I wish I had a mom like that. Good luck I know I would be so mad and frustrated if I were in your position!
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Hello out there,
I don't know where to begin.
I am sooooo sorry for what you and especialy your daughter has & have yet to go through.
I now unfortunately know both aspects of being the one that has been molested & the mother of a precious baby that this has happend to.
Can I just say & Pleaseee believe be when I say with every being of my soul that "My prayers are with the 2 of you! "
I was molested @ the age of 5 by one of my oldest Brothers friends.
I also kept it a secret ( until I was 16) becuase even @ that young age I was terrified that if I told my mother, I would not have her anymore, because I thought she would go too jail for doing something really bad to protect me in her rage because she loved me soooooooo much!
I know that the ONLY way I got through it was God's love & grace.
I now on the other hand am seeing AND definately feeling what it's like being the Mother.
Can I just syber scream aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh hhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh hhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!
That doesn't even begin to explain how & what challenges I am going through
right now!
My worst fear has come true!!!!!!
I am in soooooo much pain inside physicaly that I don't know what to do.
My whole being is a big blurr right now.
My head won't stop,I have 2 other children & I by any means do not want them & her especialy too see me @ this breaking point!
The boy who molested her is my husbands,brothers step child that has only been in this family for 5yrs.
We all live on 40 acres.
So she is being violated I feel repeatedly everyday when he walks,rides his bike or w/ his parents to go up to my Husbands parent's house every stinking day?
I am "FURIOUS."
I don't know what to do, am I wrong for not pressing charges because of wanting to spare her the stares,the hate & the agoney that goes w/ a long drawn out case that ultimately in the end might not work out in her favor because once again it's his word against hers.
Then in the end even if it is in her favor it still has not acomplished anything towards her emotional & mental well being, but by doing that might only add to th sting.
Please shed some insight on this for me, PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE.
Any prayers would be more than appreciated.
Thank you so much,
Kasandra
P.S Please don't take any offense to my opinion on the haveing a court case issue.That is just strictly my opinion in our issue for my child alone.
Not for anyone else bacause each horriable un human thing that has been done to your child,you or someone you know or that is in your family is unique
in it's own case!
Prayers to all that want or need them,
Kasandra
"Whyyyyyyyyyyyyyy, by baby girl is only 4,just 4 yrs. old!"