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My son caught us :-(

my 3yr old son caught my husband and I having sex it was so not excpected and I am really devistated by it.

The other the day I was sleeping and he came in the bed and lyed down on my back and started to move like he was humping me my husband asked him what did he think he was doing and he said humping mommy..... I WAS EXTREMLY upset pushed him off and told him never to do that again i am so ashamed and feel gross that we put him threw this.....

Why did this have to happen we were not even loud he just woke up and decided to come in to our room :-( at the wrong time. has this happened to

anyone before. did I scar him for life..
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No, I don't tihnk you've scarred him for life. However, it would be in everyone's best interests if you did your best to train him out of that behavior. Imagine sending him off to pre-school or kindergarten and he comes home with a note saying he was humping people. If anyone else were to see this, there's a chance they might suspect some kind of abuse or just something happening that is not orthodox.

Believe me, your son is not the first child to walk in on his parents, nor will he be the last. I say just ignore his behavior for now - like many annoying behaviors, children will grow out of them soon enough. If, however, he keeps it up, you may want to start thinking about how to break him of the habit before he starts humping the wrong people.
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How did he learn the term "humping"? What did you say to him when he walked in the room and saw you? My guess is he's seen it before or on television or maybe that's what you told him you were doing when he walked in, I'm sure you were shocked, embarrassed and quick to tell him something and be done with it.

The other poster is right, kids walk in all the time, you aren't the first. But, since he saw and is now showing inappropriate behavior, it's time to have a quick, basic talk with him. I am always very open with my kids and have explained and used the appropriate terms since day one. You might try:

1. If a door is closed, you must ALWAYS knock first and wait to be invited in. Mommy and Daddy need private time. If your door is closed, Mommy and Daddy will always knock first too.

2. Mommy's and Daddy's make love together, it's a special thing just for them and when you are grown up you might make that choice also.

3. It is not appropriate to pretend like you are doing what you saw Mommy and Daddy doing.

4. Do you have any questions?

If he does you need to ANSWER every one honestly and use the correct terms, but keep it brief and basic at his age.

Also, I highly recommend you get a lock for your door.
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Hey there

he knows the term humping because he humps his bed when he is falling asleep this has been happening since he was about 2 1/2. and I told him to stop humping the bed a few times... I guess that was the wrong term to use :-( . and I told my sisters so when they came over we were talking about and I guess that is how he picked it up so they told me to ask the doctor. so I also asked the doctor about the humping thing and she said it is very normal because I thought OMG where the heck did he learn that and she said they just learn threw experimenting.... I guess she is right. this whole pareting thing is soo hard. I am learning as we go but my husband and I decided to get a lock and also have alittle talk with him... we want to be open with him... but not that open ;-) thanks for your imput. it makes me feel alot better and my husband also.

How did he learn the term "humping"? What did you say to him when he walked in the room and saw you? My guess is he's seen it before or on television or maybe that's what you told him you were doing when he walked in, I'm sure you were shocked, embarrassed and quick to tell him something and be done with it.

The other poster is right, kids walk in all the time, you aren't the first. But, since he saw and is now showing inappropriate behavior, it's time to have a quick, basic talk with him. I am always very open with my kids and have explained and used the appropriate terms since day one. You might try:

1. If a door is closed, you must ALWAYS knock first and wait to be invited in. Mommy and Daddy need private time. If your door is closed, Mommy and Daddy will always knock first too.

2. Mommy's and Daddy's make love together, it's a special thing just for them and when you are grown up you might make that choice also.

3. It is not appropriate to pretend like you are doing what you saw Mommy and Daddy doing.

4. Do you have any questions?

If he does you need to ANSWER every one honestly and use the correct terms, but keep it brief and basic at his age.

Also, I highly recommend you get a lock for your door.
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VERY normal for this to happen and yet VERY embarrassing. I am going through this right now with my 4 year old daughter. Exept she has told her grandparents (my in laws) that "Mommy and Daddy make tents under the covers naked"...VERY embarrassing. ALso, my daughter has shown me how my husband and I "exercise" by "humping" the ground or backwards humping...like as if she were doing the crab walk...except thrusting her bum as we would. ON TOP of that....she would make the sounds she heard. I have no idea WHEN she saw my husband and I in the middle of this. She probably saw us, we didn't notice, and she went back to bed. So we didn't have to say anything really quick to her. We only figured out she saw us from her motions after the fact and even then we remained very calm over the whole thing because we wanted her to know we weren't caught doing something "bad", but something very normal and appropriate adult-only behavior. I would suggest not making a HUGE deal out if this. What may have hurt the situation is over reacting at the time it happened. This may have given him a reason to act on it. Because he got a BIG reaction out of you. We simply told our DD that mommy and daddy love each other and sometimes we like to lay down in bed together without our clothes. I am just up front with her and tell her that we don't talk about those sorts of things outside with other people. That its private and we keep it to ourselves. My husband is over seas in the Army National Guard so we obviously don't have to worry about her catching us for awhile....however we will be installing locks for when he returns!

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