I am not going anywhere with potty training
My dd is almost 3.5 and she is not potty trained no matter what we do. We even took seminar in college. Nothing seems work. She doesn't want to sit on potty, she may or may not say if she wet. We were told that just not giving her pull up is a bad idea 'cause she will try to hold up and it will cause constipation. Any suggestion welcome.
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We've been working on potty training our soon to be three year old. I find when I use diapers or pull ups -- even ones that are supposed to feel wet, he won't use the potty. We use thick cotton training pants and plastic pants over those.
We have DS sit on the potty (used to use a potty chair, but he likes the big toilet with a child potty seat on it) when he gets up, before meals. He reads or we read to him. Started just getting him used to the idea of sitting on the potty.
We did have a setback last week. He graduated at daycare from the 2 year old class to the three year old class and prior to that they were telling the kids about graduation, all the things they could do this summer and we think he regressed 'cuz he wanted to continue to be in the "baby" group.
Also, it took us awhile to get DS started because he was terrified of pooping. He was in the tub once and indicated he needed to go and I pulled him out and he pooped on the floor. He was terried that something came OUT of him like that.
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We are right at the tailend of potty training and I can't believe how smoothly it went. My son is 3 and was more than happy to pee and poop all day in a diaper with no disgust. When I asked if he wanted to use the potty he would throw a fit.
Then about 2 weeks ago his daycare said it was time for no more diapers. I thought they were nuts. They said bring 5 pairs of underwear, 5 pairs of plastic training pants and 5 changes of clothes and no more diapers. So, it was time for us to do the same. The first 3-4 days were rough and I wasn't sure if it was the right choice. There were lots of accidents. But we never yelled and just told him it was ok and to use the potty the next time. But then it was like a switch and suddenly there were no more accidents. I also combined it with some advice that the pediatrician said. He said to make the potty process my son's job and not mine. To have him take off his wet pants, underwear, etc. himself. To take wipes or a wash cloth and clean himself off. And then to put his new dry clothes on. I didn't even think he could change his own clothes, but he learned very fast. I never scolded. The task of cleaning himself up was enough motivation to stop doing it.
Now he doesn't even ask for my help with anything, he just runs to the bathroom and takes care of business. I'm always finding pee in the potty and didn't even know he went. (He's still learning to always flush.) And now he's waking up in the morning dry. When just a few weeks ago he was waking up with a soaked diaper.
So, maybe try taking the diapers away all day. I never thought he'd be potty trained. It will happen.
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I think we can all agree that sometimes kids are just stubborn, and no matter how much we try they are not always going to do what we want them to do, and in this case that same things goes, and I agree, give it time and it is a hard job to teach them, but sooner or later it will happen.
You could try something I we did, we use to go into the bathroom and make it a family event my wife and I would, we would go in and make believe that we went potty, and they it was our little girls turn, I know it sounds a bit crazy but it was funny when she would have to go potty and mom and dad would have to sit first.
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Both my boys were potty trained probably by 2 and a half years old.
We went and bought a huge fishbowl, and filled it with small wrapped prizes. The bowl was kept high up where they could see it, but of course not reach it. We called it "potty prizes".
Each child was simply told matter of factly that when they went in the potty, they would get to pick a prize.
My first son was a bit harder than the second, but they both still "got it" within a week--my second within a couple of days! If there was an accident, we just matter of factly said, "oh, that's ok. Maybe next time you'll get your prize". They really coveted those prizes, and very soon would drag me to the bathroom to see that they "went" and got to pick out their prize.
When they could reliably "go", we did away with diapers totally.
Later we used a variation of the fishbowl prizes. They got to pick a prize when they were caught being extra-specially good or helpful without being asked. Again, it worked like a charm.
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We've been working on potty training our soon to be three year old. I find when I use diapers or pull ups -- even ones that are supposed to feel wet, he won't use the potty. We use thick cotton training pants and plastic pants over those.
We have DS sit on the potty (used to use a potty chair, but he likes the big toilet with a child potty seat on it) when he gets up, before meals. He reads or we read to him. Started just getting him used to the idea of sitting on the potty.
We did have a setback last week. He graduated at daycare from the 2 year old class to the three year old class and prior to that they were telling the kids about graduation, all the things they could do this summer and we think he regressed 'cuz he wanted to continue to be in the "baby" group.
Also, it took us awhile to get DS started because he was terrified of pooping. He was in the tub once and indicated he needed to go and I pulled him out and he pooped on the floor. He was terried that something came OUT of him like that.
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We are right at the tailend of potty training and I can't believe how smoothly it went. My son is 3 and was more than happy to pee and poop all day in a diaper with no disgust. When I asked if he wanted to use the potty he would throw a fit.
Then about 2 weeks ago his daycare said it was time for no more diapers. I thought they were nuts. They said bring 5 pairs of underwear, 5 pairs of plastic training pants and 5 changes of clothes and no more diapers. So, it was time for us to do the same. The first 3-4 days were rough and I wasn't sure if it was the right choice. There were lots of accidents. But we never yelled and just told him it was ok and to use the potty the next time. But then it was like a switch and suddenly there were no more accidents. I also combined it with some advice that the pediatrician said. He said to make the potty process my son's job and not mine. To have him take off his wet pants, underwear, etc. himself. To take wipes or a wash cloth and clean himself off. And then to put his new dry clothes on. I didn't even think he could change his own clothes, but he learned very fast. I never scolded. The task of cleaning himself up was enough motivation to stop doing it.
Now he doesn't even ask for my help with anything, he just runs to the bathroom and takes care of business. I'm always finding pee in the potty and didn't even know he went. (He's still learning to always flush.) And now he's waking up in the morning dry. When just a few weeks ago he was waking up with a soaked diaper.
So, maybe try taking the diapers away all day. I never thought he'd be potty trained. It will happen.
Answers:
I think we can all agree that sometimes kids are just stubborn, and no matter how much we try they are not always going to do what we want them to do, and in this case that same things goes, and I agree, give it time and it is a hard job to teach them, but sooner or later it will happen.
You could try something I we did, we use to go into the bathroom and make it a family event my wife and I would, we would go in and make believe that we went potty, and they it was our little girls turn, I know it sounds a bit crazy but it was funny when she would have to go potty and mom and dad would have to sit first.
Answers:
Both my boys were potty trained probably by 2 and a half years old.
We went and bought a huge fishbowl, and filled it with small wrapped prizes. The bowl was kept high up where they could see it, but of course not reach it. We called it "potty prizes".
Each child was simply told matter of factly that when they went in the potty, they would get to pick a prize.
My first son was a bit harder than the second, but they both still "got it" within a week--my second within a couple of days! If there was an accident, we just matter of factly said, "oh, that's ok. Maybe next time you'll get your prize". They really coveted those prizes, and very soon would drag me to the bathroom to see that they "went" and got to pick out their prize.
When they could reliably "go", we did away with diapers totally.
Later we used a variation of the fishbowl prizes. They got to pick a prize when they were caught being extra-specially good or helpful without being asked. Again, it worked like a charm.