guilty for leaving or not?
HI
I am a stay at home mother to a 17 month old daughter. I love being home with her and spending time with her. Me and my husband are very active with her we do everything with her and bring her everywhere. The las time that we had a evening to ourselves was 7 months ago. The reason for that is I was talking to a friend yesterday and told her we are going away this Saturday for the night. I told her we are leaving my daughter with my mother at the cottage. Her response was that I am not being very nice and I should take her with us because she just cant imagine why parents would do that and she would never leave her children behind.
Should I be feeling guilty for leaving my child for 24 hrs?
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No you should definatly not feel guilty about leaving you child for a day. I also dont think you should listen to anyone elses critisisms about your parenting. If you and you DH are ready to go off alone, more power to you, a relationship doesnt stay healthy alone it needs to be worked on and parents need time as adults. When my DS was 12 months old we went out of town for the entire weekend and left him with his grandma and everything was fine, he may have even been in better hands because she hovers around him and watches him like a hawk. It was also very nice for us to just lounge for a weekend and not change any poopy diapers or kiss scraped knees. I think if you and your husband are ready you should go have a good time and remember you are someone other then a mother and a father. And hey grandmas raised us and we turned out OK right?!?
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Hi
Thanks. I am happy I am not the only one that feels that way. I love my DH but I also cant wait to have time with my husband. And I agree, she will be in good hands with grandma, she was a nurse in the nursery for 20 years.
Thanks
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i agree, she will be fine. it is good for parents to get away.
we have a 4 year old and a 13 month old. i can count on my fingers how many times my 4 year old has spent the night away from home, and that is just at my moms house, which is less than a mile from our house. i didn't leave him overnight until he was like 2.5, but now with number 2 i realize they will be fine, and enjoy being away as much as we do. i have only left 13 month old once over night and worried the whole time. but when i got home, he didn't even want to come to me. it made me sad, but at least i knew he was having a great time. in september, dh and i are going to a wedding in another state and will be leaving them for 2 nights. i am looking so foward to it. it will be the longest the two of us have spent alone since becomming mommy and daddy. go enjoy yourself and don't worry what others may think, as long as you and you daughter a comfortable, then that is all that matters.
have fun.
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Thanks
I have the same feeling I worry when I am not with her which I have only done 4 times but deap down I know she's ok. I have to stop stressing myself out about what other people say I should and should not do and she should be doing this and that by a certain month/age, that my house/laundry/dishes should always be done and just enjoy and have fun with her.
ps have fun on your weekend away in September.
I am a stay at home mother to a 17 month old daughter. I love being home with her and spending time with her. Me and my husband are very active with her we do everything with her and bring her everywhere. The las time that we had a evening to ourselves was 7 months ago. The reason for that is I was talking to a friend yesterday and told her we are going away this Saturday for the night. I told her we are leaving my daughter with my mother at the cottage. Her response was that I am not being very nice and I should take her with us because she just cant imagine why parents would do that and she would never leave her children behind.
Should I be feeling guilty for leaving my child for 24 hrs?
Answers:
No you should definatly not feel guilty about leaving you child for a day. I also dont think you should listen to anyone elses critisisms about your parenting. If you and you DH are ready to go off alone, more power to you, a relationship doesnt stay healthy alone it needs to be worked on and parents need time as adults. When my DS was 12 months old we went out of town for the entire weekend and left him with his grandma and everything was fine, he may have even been in better hands because she hovers around him and watches him like a hawk. It was also very nice for us to just lounge for a weekend and not change any poopy diapers or kiss scraped knees. I think if you and your husband are ready you should go have a good time and remember you are someone other then a mother and a father. And hey grandmas raised us and we turned out OK right?!?
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Hi
Thanks. I am happy I am not the only one that feels that way. I love my DH but I also cant wait to have time with my husband. And I agree, she will be in good hands with grandma, she was a nurse in the nursery for 20 years.
Thanks
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i agree, she will be fine. it is good for parents to get away.
we have a 4 year old and a 13 month old. i can count on my fingers how many times my 4 year old has spent the night away from home, and that is just at my moms house, which is less than a mile from our house. i didn't leave him overnight until he was like 2.5, but now with number 2 i realize they will be fine, and enjoy being away as much as we do. i have only left 13 month old once over night and worried the whole time. but when i got home, he didn't even want to come to me. it made me sad, but at least i knew he was having a great time. in september, dh and i are going to a wedding in another state and will be leaving them for 2 nights. i am looking so foward to it. it will be the longest the two of us have spent alone since becomming mommy and daddy. go enjoy yourself and don't worry what others may think, as long as you and you daughter a comfortable, then that is all that matters.
have fun.
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Thanks
I have the same feeling I worry when I am not with her which I have only done 4 times but deap down I know she's ok. I have to stop stressing myself out about what other people say I should and should not do and she should be doing this and that by a certain month/age, that my house/laundry/dishes should always be done and just enjoy and have fun with her.
ps have fun on your weekend away in September.